feel like i'm being a bit unfair to my friend ... would you mind if it was you?

[nappyaddict]

me and my friend have ds' of a similar age so we often do stuff together like swimming, the park, soft play etc but i feel bad cos she often invites us over to their house and i can't invite her here cos i live with my mum and my mum won't let me have friends over here that have children unless its the summer and we can go in the garden.

I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you explained.

Wouldn't bother me.

No I would understand. Like in the holidays I invited the friends (and mums) of my youngest dd here because I would no way except anyone to invite the three older ones along. Also (although my house is small) it is larger than a few of my friends homes so it makes sense for them to come here IYSWIM

The more I hear about your mother the more controlling she seems..

Did you resolve the rent issue ?

Is she constantly trying to make you pay for being a young mum .... so to speak ??

Wouldn't bother me, just don't trash her house and offer to bring the ingredients to make a nice lunch now and again

I wouldn't mind. I used to feel really uncomfortable having friends round when I was at my parents, and that was without any small children around. I aspire to DS having a home where he can have all his mates round but I realise that not everyone has that kind of home.

Can you make sure you take cake or something when you visit your friend?

oooh good idea. i do like making cake. no haven't resolved it. have left it for the time being. i did say to her for the amount i pay her i should be allowed to have who i want around and that i should get a reduction in a heated discussion about me having said friend around for an hour before we went to the soft play whilst i waited for ds to wake up. the thing is it does actually make sense for her to come here cos our house is much bigger.

She won't mind, it's you she enjoys seeing so it doesn't matter where she sees you. As said earlier, explain the situation to her so it's off yur chest then sit and have fun. And cake

i wouldnt mind if i was your friend im sure she is aware of your situation

don't really understand the reason why she doesn't want me to have one friend over with one child who is very well-behaved tbh. could understand if he ran riot but he doesn't and we only ever stay in one room. i don't let them run all over the house. it's not like i want to run a bloody toddler group from the front room.

I live in a small flat so although we often invite friends over their parents often say 'why not come here, then they can play in the garden' etc, so generally we mostly visit them.