Will I get jailed? Loosing my daughter

[Ladieunlucky]

I’m expecting a lot of nasty comments but ju I have endured hell these last 6 months. I’m aware if I put this out there I’ll get a mix of opinions.

The back story is I’m a 33 year old mum of one, a daughter who is 15 who lives between myself and my ex husband. Until December last year I worked for a company and had been in this career since I was 16. I was diagnosed with bi polar in January and unfortunately prior to this, during a manic episode I took a large amount of money upto 15k + from the company. I have no idea why I did this now and I spent the money on holidays for my daughter, and debts I’d ran up on past manic episodes. I realised what I had done was wrong and and I took myself to the police station to admit this. The company were unaware at this point. I also informed my now boyfriend of 2 years who has stuck by me. I was then arrested in April and questioned further, to which I admitted again what I had done and would take full responsibility. I of course lost my job over this, and I live in small town where word has got about and it has ruined my reputation, and I’ve lost all my friends. I know this is my own fault. I cannot leave the house without fear and I sit most day alone. I’ll never get another job again.

I have reached a place of no return. I visited the doctor in January and explained how I’d been feeling for years and they wouldn’t give me anti depressants but wanted to further investigate and reached the diagnose of bi polar. I have started medication (mood stabilisers) and unfortunately have made me quite unwell with a upset stomach. This meant that my contraception pill failed and and I am currently around 7 weeks pregnant. I am due to go back to the police station on Wednesday to be charged with fraud under false representation, I am looking at going to the crown court to be sentenced. I have accepted that this may happen and I cannot continue with the pregnancy due to being so mentally unwell and facing sentencing. I have no option but to have a termination. I cannot care for this child and I expect some nasty comments on this. It breaks my heart.

I have previously never committed a crime, worked hard for my career, been the best mum I can, and now face a life long mental illness. I understand that I can be sentenced and I deserve this but I’m not sure I’ll be able to cope in prison. I’ve tried to take my life twice this year. I don’t want to leave me daughter and some may say I should of thought about this but during a manic episode you do not know what you doing until after. To which I then admitted my
wrongs doings. My life is ruined due to my own doing. I am wondering what I could be looking at come sentencing and probably to hear what already terrible person I am and rubbish mum. It she most I deserve

Good people make bad decisions and you sound like a good person to me. I can't imagine what you're going through. You can get though this and it might even be the making of you in the future. You can turn this around and it sounds like you have a great support network to help. You've done more than some would do and admitted your guilt. That takes courage and counts for a lot. I wish you all the best and I truly feel for your situation. I hope any sentence is light because you've already lost enough. Be strong and look after you.

You are mentally unwell. I’m sorry this is happening to you. You’ve had a run of bad luck, resulting in a couple of bad decisions.

I hope they take this all into consideration and you don’t go to prison. I don’t think you deserve it, I think you deserve help.

Sending you loads of love and positive vibes for your hearing. X

Honestly
youre not a bad person at all! You were just poorly. I have bipolar, and in my twenties the amount of money I pissed up the wall and the amount of ridiculous things I did was too many to even count.
you sound amazing. Good luck x

How soon after stealing the money, did you come down from the manic episode?( You said you took your daughter on holidays (plural)that musthave been a while after) and how soon after that did you turn yourself in?
To be blunt you must have suspected the net would close in, eventually.

sensitivity of a brick. Don't ever think of going into counselling.

Are you on medication for your bipolar? As some medication like sodium valproate (epilim) can cause birth defects so may also help with your decision making

Some people are complete shit bags, others are just down on their luck and have horrible things happen to them. I think the OP has had a shit time TBH.

Compassion is free.

@ageratum1 it does seem you are not educated on mental illness like the rest of the very supportive comments on here. I do hope yourself or family members ever witness bi polar or any sort of illness. Unfortunately you have no recognition of time or consequences. That’s the sad part. Episodes can last months at a time. No two people are the same. I stole the money just before Xmas, too which I went away that same week and then took myself to the police station on the 23rd December

Does it though, I'm genuinely interested. As I know of someone supposedly on medication.
But never got the full story on things.
And therefore some things don't make sense.
As in they drink a lot and as far as I am aware take cocaine.
So surely all of this must have a negative impact hence why I was under the impression that medication doesn't always help.

So I am not sure if they have an additional addiction or they do it because I have heard it can make some feel more like when they didn't have bi polar.

It's easy to say not to worry, but the police will understand to a degree that you did this while suffering from a compromised position.
I can't even imagine your pain and fear (I've been there) but there will be help available and I wouldn't have thought the law would go hard down on you as they might someone that was more straight thinking.
They also, I would have thought take into your honesty and bravery doing so.
Seriously, yes you had some responsibility as you know, but people get charged less for more serious crimes.
I can imagine how scared you are, I have a mood disorder too.
The police will also take into account your remorse that you are showing.
I hope you get help soon xxxx

I commented on your other thread about this

You screwed up because of mental illness not because of a deliberate calculated act.

I think with your mental health assessment and circumstances surrounding what happened you could end up not going to prison at all.
Prisons are full and even the amount you allegedly stole is not deemed to be in the top category

The category 2 sentencing guidelines given your undiagnosed at the time bipolar it could be argued that it would fall into the C section on sentencing guidelines and this at worse is a lot of community service, an ankle monitor and maybe you would have to repay what you stole.
I think your solicitor is preparing you for the very worse case scenario but I would hope that a judge would take into account your mental health and the fact you confessed voluntarily

If you abort a much wanted child I think your mental health could end up much much worse.

Do you think that's a helpful thing to say to someone who's already had the abortion?

Where does it say she has had an abortion?

Read it twice. Apologies if I missed something but genuinely can’t see anything to say this happened.

This poster updates on loads of individual little threads, so it's not immediately obvious from this thread that she had an abortion already, but this particular thread was started in May. How likely is it that she'd still be deciding whether to have an abortion three months later?

It doesn't say in any of the OP's little replies that she had an abortion.
And she never came back to say any further on the situation overall.

It's in all her other threads.