What the hell did I just read?

[CaptainJ]

How is this columnist still getting published - is it just clickbait?

In todays Guardian

My partner hates my pubic hair but I refuse to shave. What now?

The suggestion is to accommodate the others needs

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/apr/30/my-partner-hates-my-pubic-hair-but-i-refuse-to-shave-what-now

Erm. I think you’ve read it wrong….?

The lady with the bitter tasting genitals is being advised to stop expecting oral sex from her partner who clearly does not enjoy this sex act.

You've misread the advice.

Yes, that's how I read it too, @AgathaMystery

I think the title is misleading.

she doesn’t want to shave, he doesn’t like going down on her, the hair being part of the reason. That he doesn’t like the taste is a whole other can of worms unrelated to hair or lack of.

columnist isn’t suggesting she shaves, she’s saying they should stop “trying” to have oral
sex as it’s not working for him and making him anxious.

I suppose they both need to decide whether oral for her is a relationship deal breaker.

It seems like the suggestion is to stop having oral. I don't see the problem with that.

Her advice is spot on. Nobody should be pressured into sex acts they don’t want to do. If a man was complaining that his wife didn’t give him oral sex as she didn’t like the taste and he didn’t want to remove his pubic hair, the advice would be the same. If you don’t like it, don’t do it. If it’s a deal breaker for either partner then so be it.

I agree with the advice.

No oral would likely be a deal breaker for me, but oral from a partner who didn't want to would be even worse.

She's within her rights not to shave. He's within his rights not to participate in sex acts he doesn't enjoy.

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On a more serious note, as a man, I like a lady to have pubic hair, it is natural and lovely to touch.