I wish I could transport you all for a real life opinion, but as I can't..........

[hollybet]

In September, I found my wedding dress and was very thrilled with it. The only thing wrong with it was that it had a very very full skirt and a large hooped underskirt and train, but the dressmaker removed the underskirt and assured me that some of the material could be removed to make it a straighter style and the train shortened - I feel that at 41 I am too old for a big full skirt and never really wanted one anyway. When I went for the first fitting I took, mil to be, mum and a mate. I tried the dress on with and without the underskirt for them and it was a unanimous decision that it looks fantastic with the underskirt and will not look as good without.
We compromised on having the train shortenend, so I went back again on my own for the second fitting and it did look better with just a small train, and the girl in the shop was saying how wonderful it was (yes, I know, she would !!) and I told her about my underskirt dilema, she had me trying on various sizes of hooped underskirt and gave me the honest opinion that it looks better with the largest underskirt.
What would you do, go back and have the material removed and wear it as a straighter style which is what I wanted, but by doing that go against the opinion of everyone who has seen it, or go with the big underskirt?
I keep considering asking different people to come with me but I don't want everyone to have seen it before hand and what if everyone I take has the same opinion?
Wedding in 7 weeks!

Do I ever feel like a stylish sex goddess????????????

It does look fantasic, especially the top bit as I have very good heaving bosoms and am wearing it with a short bolero jacket in exactly the same material, the same as the one on 'Alice' at the begining of the site, but with the bottom of the sleeves trimmed in the same material as is on poppy's bodice (does that make sense?)which gives a very flattering neckline and hides the flabby arms!

I am going to book an appointment for the 9th with the dressmaker and try it again and get her to pin it - I think I needed people to reinforce what I know, that I must go with what I feel best in - and that isn't a hooped underskirt. Little Bo Peep could never be a sex goddess!

And thank you Janh - mwah mwah!!

You've got to feel right in what you're wearing. If the hoopy underskirt doodah doesn't feel right to you then it doesn't matter what anyone else's opnion is. Though I agree with everyone else that you'll look gorgeous whatever! We do get to see pics after I hope!

agree with everyone that YOU are the one who needs to adore it and feel comfortable and gorgeous in it. Having said that your concern about the big skirt seems to be related at least a bit to your age, and whether or not you "should" wear a big skirt at 41. FWIW this style of dress is not going to make anyone look like they're trying to look younger/trying too hard etc. It's a very sophisticated "grown-up" wedding dress and, imho, will keep that look whatever the size of skirt. It's NEVER going to look meringue-y or girly coz it's just not that sort of dress.

take digital photos and post them .. we'll tell you honestly

Lilibet, I agree with Twig, we need photos!

And you could transport a load of mumsnetters for a real life opinion but they'd all disagree, surely?

I don't know how to do photos

Won't TUTB? It's a willy thing