To be blamed for something you haven't done.

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For many years I have been constantly blamed for something that I did not do by someone in my family. The problem is I have never had any physical proof that I didn't and my word is not good enough. This has as you can imagine caused huge problems in the family. I try everyday just to carry on with my life knowing that I did not do what I am being accused of, but recently I ran into this person that I have not seen for a number of years and it's really shook me. No words were exchanged but seeing them triggered me badly. I don't know how especially now after all these years I can clear my name. And I don't know how I can move on completely as I carry it with me everyday that the family is not complete. I also do not think I want to move forward with a relationship as they have hurt me very badly. Please do not ask what I am being accused of because I will not say.

If this happened to me I would feel angry with that person when I saw them. They should be embarrassed to see you if they made up a lie that caused huge issues in your family. Find your strength and speak up for yourself.

Can you give us any idea what sort of thing it was? Sexual abuse? Theft?

My dsis has allowed me to take the blame for ex sil not being invited to family events after she split from db.
My ex sil and her 4 dc all think it’s me and dsis is spoken to by the dc at family events whilst I’m barely acknowledged.
Dsis has begged me not to make her admit it’s her and as she struggles with depression ( and my ex sil hates me anyway) I don’t let it bother me.

The best thing you can do OP to get on with your life, the people that love you will know your true character.

I understand you don’t want to say what it is you’re accused of. But I think if it’s something trivial ignore her, or if it’s something major have it out with her.