Being ignored by DD

[Bettyboo1962]

Hello
I recently rescued a Stafford bull terrier (my 3rd in 20 years so I am used to them) and took my grandson aged 9 to see her before we got her.
My grandson liked her and my DD and her family came to see her at my house and it was fine. MyDD has a 2 year old too.
I was originally going to have them sleep over half term but asked it I could postpone it to easter for them to sleep and the dog had only been with us a couple of weeks and I had not got a crate to put her in and was worried if the baby cried the dog would bark and get excited ..she is a bit giddy but not vicious.
My DD said I don't understand why you got a dog you don't trust around kids when you have grandkids. I offered to drive to her house and baby sit instead but she refused. I work full time and would have done it on both my days off.
She now refuses to talk to me, answer my messages or calls.
I sent her flowers and invited her for lunch but she ignored my invite and didn't acknowledge the flowers.
I have invited them here this weekend for food and my other daughter told me my DD had said she was coming with the family, but still won't reply to my message asking what they would like to eat etc.
I am so down, it has been a month now since she spoke to me. I keep crying and feel ill and depressed.
I don't want to send the dog back as she's not done anything wrong, but feel I have.
I only did it to protect the baby from getting scared if the dog barked and got excited, when I had nowhere to put the dog ( I do now).
I can't understand why she's being so hurtful towards me. I often used to drive the hour each way to babysit for her but now she has her dad to babysit as he's retired , she doesn't need me anymore..in any sense
I dont want to never see her or my grandkids again ,
What can I do?

[PinkShore]

Well you let her down. You said you’d have the kids in half term and then cancelled it because of your dog. Maybe she had plans.

Why didn’t you get a crate to put the dog in? A new rescue dog should always be shut away from visiting children. You should have a gate on your kitchen to keep the dog separated. If you’d have sorted this in time you could have honoured the original arrangement. Have you apologised for cancelling on her?

That being said. Not speaking to you for a month seems like a huge overreaction on her part. I would assume there is more to this for your daughter to react like this. What is your other daughters take on it?

[Bigearringsbigsmile]

Stop chasing her. She sounds like a nightmare.