People with no profile pics on dating apps

[Diogenes69]

I’m on a well know dating app and recently was messaged by someone without a profile pic. I liked what the profile said and description so started to chat with them. We seemed to be getting on so I asked them for a pic or too see who I was talking to. They came up with excuses. I then found out they had created the profile for a friend and their name and description they were using was also the friends. They then said they wanted someone to get to know them first based on chatting rather than looks. Description said attractive… I kept pressing about seeing them and they said they could if we went on whatsap. Is it me or are alarm bells ringing? Why do people do this?? It’s unreasonable if I’ve put pics of me on my profile. Anyway I’ve told them I won’t chat anymore until I’ve seen their face and certainly would not meet up with a blind date. Am I being unreasonable??

Kind of.

I never used to put my picture up when I tried online dating because I wanted someone who was interested in me as a person and my personality rather than someone who judged me on looks.

I would never even bother speaking to someone without a profile pic. Just feels too evasive for me, I'd be thinking they were married (or a serial killer)

I did say I didn’t go total on looks alone and personality was important. I do feel I have to be attracted to someone’s looks though… saves disappointment when you see them. Can’t forgive them though for using a misleading profile description.

Think most of them are married anyway, even ones with pictures lol. You just have to do your due diligence.

Utterly pointless and a waste of time for everyone

@ShirleyPhallus Not at all. I met a man through it and we had a great relationship for years. It's over now but not because of that. Have you tried it yourself?

I wouldn’t even swipe right on a profile with no picture. I would assume they are married or it’s a catfish profile. And if they are genuine but don’t want to show their face, dating apps aren’t for them.

The other odd thing is that when we were chatting and I was asking for a pic they then said that they were going to put a pic of their dog on there to see if anyone would get in touch? I don’t mind dogs but Its then person who I’m interested in and not looking at pics of their dog! They came across as someone with issues about their looks or hiding something.

Could be a number of reasons, married or already in relationship, they need to be careful about SM due to work or something of that nature, ex issues, wanting to remain some what anonymous.

Who knows. I don't think giving out your number can do much harm. You can always block and delete.

Wow. If you're looking for friendships, then stay off dating sites where people are seeking romantic relationships with people they're actually attracted to. Anyone with at least a moderate level of intelligence knows that one of the prerequisites of dating romantically is finding someone you're physically / sexually attracted to. If looks / attraction didn't matter, then more people would do the most sensible thing, which would be to seek relationships with their friends or other people that they already know and have already proven themselves to be worthwhile and trustworthy long term in their lives. The reason people look for strangers outside of their circle of already proven people in their lives (friends) is because people are looking for someone physically / sexually attractive to have a romantic relationship with, which is a deeper level than just a friendship bonding where looks do not matter. Sexual attraction is what makes the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship. If you're looking for a connection where you want to hide your looks so no one can judge based on looks and only judge based on emotional connection, then you're looking for friendship (or maybe a potential roommate, or substitute brother or sister or family type of non-romantic love, or probably even a pet, etc. who knows). But, when it comes to seeking a romantic relationship, people BETTER KNOW if the person they're talking to is attractive / sexually attractive to them, and with me there will always be a video chat before meeting to make sure that I'm not being deceived by intentionally deceptive pictures.

You are NOT being unreasonable. Any sensible person knows that attraction / sexual attraction are HIGHLY IMPORTANT when pursuing a romantic relationship. If you are solely seeking a mutual friendship level (or less) type of relationship with someone, then yes, it is ok to hide or dismiss the physical appearance almost entirely if you want.

I don't think I need to explain further.

PS: If you meet anyone online romantically, ALWAYS REQUIRE a video chat before going further. No photo or photos that don't tell you the things you desire to know should be an immediate disqualifier unless you are simply looking for friendships, or are looking for romantic relationships while also being ok with potentially making friends with people who turn out not to be attractive to you on a relationship level. But if you are one of those who already have enough friends and enough family love and are seriously looking for a romantic partner, please make sure you know immediately what the person you're potentially starting something with looks like.

It is NOT unreasonable to want to know that you're sexually or physically attracted to the person you will potential be in a sexual relationship with. Romantic relationships include sex. Friendships and family love and coworker or roommate, etc. types of relationships typically do not, so no real need to know what someone looks like if you're seeking those other type of love or relationships.