As I grow (30 this year) and find out more about myself, how I want to live, my values, how I want to parent my 2 DDs I feel like I’m getting so much more confident in myself and the way I want my life to be. I have a very happy home life, great DH, love my work, I am happy. But whenever I see my family (parents, sister and her DD my niece) I just feel like I’m drifting away from them. I’m very close with my mum and me and my sister grew up so close, but are ultimately turning into different people, which is fine and expected, but I almost feel like I don’t have much in common with them anymore and it makes me really sad. Like I almost leave the meet ups grieving for the relationships we had but I know it won’t be like that again while I’m becoming the person I want to be. On paper we have the same interests but I work super hard to achieve my goals around my kids, to ensure a good work/life balance. I put health and fitness as a high priority in mine and my kids lives. But I feel as if I can’t really talk about these things without being made to feel guilty that I’m achieving things. My family are very good at making excuses and blame others or external situations for their issues. My sisters husband is a very negative man and I can see that more and more in her. Has anyone else felt the same? They’re great people and I love them so much I just hate feeling like we’re so different now. I don’t know what I really want from this post. To just chat about it maybe. I talk to DH but as he’s not grown up with a close family dynamic to then almost lose it I don’t think he gets it. Plus he gets frustrated with my sister as she does little things such as she forgot to get my baby a present for her first Christmas but bought for my eldest. For my eldest first Christmas she gave her £20 in the bottom of the gift bag mine was in. She seems to care so much in person but seems to not at the same time. She will cancel plans to see us but then expect us to go to her for similar things. I don’t know it’s hard to explain. Can anyone relate?