I don't know what to do...

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Met my Partner almost 4 years ago, similar interests, some not but we enjoy everything together.

We came from different cities and he now lives up north with me and our one year old... the last 6 months have been really trying... he's so loving towards us and does everything he can for us, gets stressed too, we both have stressful jobs too though.

He is depressed, I've tried to get him help but to no avail. He now snaps at me, slams doors and leaves the house... it's making me feel uncomfortable and when I try and explain this he says "he's not allowed to show emotion" that's not the case, I am always here to comfort him but when he snaps infront of the baby and just his low moods in genera really make me feel anxious... I've got tension pain everywhere.

I don't know what to do... I feel uncomfortable in my own home. I don't know what kind of mood he's waking up to.

When you said you’ve tried to get him help….is there none available, or is he not keen in either speaking to the GP, trying medication or talking to a counsellor?
If it’s a case of him not being willing, that would change the advice people would give.
if there is no help available on the NHS is there anything through the company he works for or is private an option?

Cause of the nature of our job we can't take medication without the whole company knowing.... they only offered him medication and sent him on his way...

Surely medical information would be confidential though? Even if the management need to know about it. Anti depressant therapy can be really helpful.

You would think... I've had instances where I've been in a meeting and a manager would say "did you know so so is off sick?" Yeah and then proceed to tell me why this person is off sick and the reason was pretty confidential

You can self refer in a lot of areas, curious though, on what grounds would an employer need to know their employee was taking AD? You don’t have to tell your employer even, never mind the rest of the company.
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/nhs-talking-therapies/

For context we both work in safety critical roles, so any medication that can alter our state of mind or affect our abilities to work we need tk declare, once we do, our declared medication is shared with line managers.

CBT can also be beneficial. Medication is extremely useful for some patients. But it’s not the only route.