AIBU - am I being a dick

[Cocobellax]

So to try and make this short as I can, my husband has a large family lot of siblings and one nephew so far, this nephew in question is 5 years old. My LG is 1, he’s always extremely rude to her never shares try’s to take all her stuff off her and home with him, constantly try’s to hit her and no one- I mean no one besides me and my husband tell him off. Including husbands parents and siblings and the child’s own parents!

anyways going to see everyone at my mother and father in laws is always stressful for me because I know I have to be on watch.
im due for surgery in a few days and I know they will all come down to see me, hopefully everything going well! And I just really don’t want this child to come, for many reasons- he will be mean to my baby who I can’t fully protect because I won’t be my normal self, and also he will probably steal stuff of hers - he is very sneaky.

Am I just being a dick is it unreasonable of me to ask my husband to ask them not to bring him until I’m feeling better ?!

[WestendGrrls]

Oh goodness no you aren't being unreasonable. If I was recovering from surgery I wouldn't want any of my in laws over! Certainly not a whole gang of them. As far as the boy is concerned your husband needs to have some words with his parents. He should have been making them pay attention to this as it's been happening to be honest, and embarrass them into intervening. For what it's worth I think this is really strange behaviour for a 5 year old and they are usually quite nice to babies. I'd expect this sort of behaviour from a much younger child. YANBU.

[Onabench]

They’re a child. Either advise no visitors or give over. It isn’t ideal but why isn’t your partner stepping in? That’s an issue.

[therealcookiemonster]

you shouldn't really have visitors when recovering from surgery. you don't want to catch anything! just recover for at least a couple of weeks posy op, then maybe visitors