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fed up

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annemarie29 · 19/03/2008 08:42

ever since dd was born 6 weeks ago i've had nothing but hassle from 'official' types. i had a complaint made to my housing association about a couple of bags that i left by my bin, an allegation of neglect made to ss and i've just found out who might be doing this to me plus they've reported me to the rspca about my cat! it would seem it's 2 so called 'friends' that i thought could be trusted. i have no idea why they are doing this to me. all i know is that one of them has been 'off' with me since dh and i got married last year. and to make it worse dh and i had a row over it last night because i tried to explain that it's not aimed at him and now he's accusing me of being a martyr and hardly talking to me!! we are about to have our 1st wedding anniversary next week.
one of these women was my best friend..we all went on holiday together the summer before my wedding. why is she doing this?

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hecate · 19/03/2008 08:43

Could it be jealousy?

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annemarie29 · 19/03/2008 08:48

i really don't know. i know she is desperate to marry her bf (who has now proposed) and have more kids. but how could she think that all this justifies what she's doing to me and my family. my eldest ds spent the week between us recieving the letter about ss and them coming out thinking they were coming to take him and the little ones away. he was devastated. he's 10. so angry and upset.

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hecate · 19/03/2008 08:52

What did she accuse you of - do you know it's her, or are you assuming it is? And how did your ds get to know about the letter? I know it's hard, but it is important to try to hide such things from small kids until or unless it is taken out of your control, imo.

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annemarie29 · 19/03/2008 09:01

she's been boasting about it down at the local school playground. the sw told me that the report said the children were always grubby and they were generally not looked after. ds overheard me talking to dh about it. unfortunately our house is small and open plan so quite difficult to stop these things happening. i wish he hadn't overheard.

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hecate · 19/03/2008 09:14

I bet you do, poor thing and poor you. Is your dh in in the evenings or at work? Could you save discussions for the night when your kids are asleep? Anyway, that's by the by...You know what I would do? I would have a conversation with a couple of school mums who you know talk to her too. Say that you had the ss in and they realised it was a malicious accusation and you are considering taking legal action based on several different false accusations against you. SS said they'd back you up and confirm the kids are fine....in fact, you are going to a solicitor after you drop the kids off.....
Do you see?
Let that get back to her and put the frighteners on!
That's what I'd do - well, actually I'd go up to her and tell her straight I was going to a solicitor, but sometimes the grape vine works well

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