My X husband divorced me after 20 years and left the USA. It's been 8 years and I'm still needing him for financial support. I was a house wife with my son and daughter 8 years apart from each other. Now my son is independent and lives in Denver. My daughter lives with me and is in college. I really could use some hopeful words of wisdom.... My X just remarried a woman half his age and is going to start a new family at 55. I realize that we were wrong for each other and I know we are better off apart. It's just that I gave him the best years and now I'm feeling so old at almost 55. He got off easy in the divorce. He managed to leave me without anything because he had a debt that came to collect and took my share of the assets.
There was a dispute over a name he used for a product he owned . The term is Patton infringement and they warned him and gave him a chance to stop using the stupid name. Being an Italian born male and stubborn he refused. Just before the judgement he divorced me and and left me a warehouse and some cash. He moved in with his secretary for awhile and then moved to Malta and established his buisness there. This company from Germany took the warehouse and put a lien on my home in Florida. Now I had to move back to Florida and live in a home that we started out in with all the memories .That is why he is supporting me and my daughter still because he left us with nothing. Now he is living a really great life with my daughter visiting him during the summers. I am stuck in neutral and I still haven't found my new purpose yet. I tried different jobs but no real success. I waitressed at a diner and most people were sweet but these young waitresses can be brutal. Then, I worked at a beauty supply store but they made me push their rewards program and had to ask everyone for their personal info. Phone numbers, addresses, email addresses, and then I had to push their credit cards. On each person that came to the register. Like they don't make enough money. Corporate bastards
I know I'm telling everyone my whole life but I really am stuck in a rut. They say do what you love but I don't love like I used to. I'm sour grapes in a world of young fresh fruit. I need to accept that this is life and just be grateful that I am still here and not fighting some devistating illness. Knock on wood
I'm hoping I can just enter this final stage of life and be content no matter what I'm going to face .... I just needed to tell that to somebody . Therapist are in it for the money they really don't give a shit. They say the same thing to everyone. Just exercise and eat healthy and take care of yourself. Start networking online so you can find a job.
It's common sense but some of us need to care about ourselves before we can care for ourselves. Thanks for letting me on your website so I can cry and type all this in the middle of the night! It really helped me connect. Suzette