can u answer this, not sure if im in the right place im new here

[MissTickles]

if a person wants to drink most nights but doesnt feel the need and can easily go without drink does it mean that they are alcoholic??

its not me btw lol

Hello MissTickles, welcome

I think there's a contradiction between 'wants to drink' and 'doesn't feel the need/can easily go without'.

In my experience, if you want something, it's because you do feel the need or would find it a bit irritating to go without.

So I think that whoever said this to you is not being entirely honest. (Although they are not necessarily alcoholic either!)

No that alone doens't make someone an alcoholic. How much are they drinking?

I hope not.

Hello Miss Tickles!

I think you become an alcoholic when you can't fuction without it, when it takes over life.

We normally have a drink most nights, don't get drunk very often (i.e. once a year), can go as long we liked with out it, but enjoy having a drink. I don't think I'd say we were alcoholics.

Welcome to MN BTW

So is this a 'friend', miss tickles?

I drink a bottle a week and I'm made to feel like a Lush by dh. I have a glass or 2 on friday, one on saturday and finish it off on sunday with dinner. BUT I feel quite put out if dh has a glass of my wine...so am I dependant?

I would say thats more of a habbit than an addiction.

mmm, well this person has been with their DP for nearly 2 years (sorry if this seems to be off the subject lol) she is a very close friend and tells me everything sometimes theres tmi lol
she likes to drink cos it loosens her up and she feels she can talk to her dp freely then, but she isnt collecting pennys for a bottle of vodka lol. she s even told me that even after they had their lo she still wont let him see her naked she says she doesnt really need to drink and doesnt crave it but it just loosens her up

Then she is insecure, and that is the problem, she needs to deal with that before she does become dependent on alcohol.

thats what i said!!!! she really needs to speak to him and say that she feels a lil "shy" i mean after having a baby i think everyones body falls to pieces lmao but addmitted i ll walk around the house naked after a shower or bath (when ds is in bed) and i must learn not to do it lol and think to hell with it if u can watch me giving birth and crying for my mum then u cant be embarrassed by my nakedness stretch marks an al lol but she dont see it that way .