Sorry if this is in the wrong place & I apologise in advance I don’t know all the mums net jargon but I need to vent badly & in need of advice so here goes..
I’m fed up my mother wants us to be close she rings up to 3 times a day mainly to go on about work or it will be to ask me to do something for her it’s got to the point I’m putting my phone on flight mode just to have a me day because she triggers negative angry emotions in me.
Growing up I felt very alone & isolated she loved arguments & drama constantly being either nasty or being overly emotional crying all the time she used me as a weapon against my dad whenever they would fall out she would take it out on me then ban him from seeing me until it suited her. She belittled & mocked me constantly growing up criticising my weight & appearance she still makes unwanted comments regarding my weight now despite her being overweight herself. As an adult she is very much the same constantly negative & always a drama only ever wants to talk about work never listens to a word anyone else has to say I avoid her as much as I can I’ve tried speaking to her & suggesting we see a councillor together but she won’t go.
It’s getting to a point I feel like cutting her out I just can’t keep pretending to care when I really dislike the woman she just brings me down worst thing is she is gradually loosing her independence which worrying as I know she will expect us to move in with her which isn’t an option we just can’t live together the last time I done that she made my daughter & I homeless because she was having an off day.