Invasion of the in-laws

[Hattie87]

I’m really battling with the amount of times we see my in-laws.
My in laws immigrated to be closer to us soon after we found out we were pregnant.
Our boy is 18months now old and they spend every weekend with us. They live down the road to they do go home later in the night- say 10pm but they’ll spend all of Saturday or Sunday (or both) from early in the morning, with us. I’m incredibly grateful for the help they give us and I’m fully aware of them up and leaving their family and friends to be close to us but it’s starting to really annoy me how much they are in our personal space. They even join us when we meet up with some of our friends because the in laws have know them since they were babies. We can’t really be a family of 3 and feel obligated to include them with everything. I’ve tried to bring this up with my husband and he some what agrees but he feels he needs to be extra nice to them because they know no one else. I’m beginning to resent them rather than enjoy their company.

Were expectations not discussed before they made such a momentous decision ?

In what way are they helpful? you mention the weekends but not the weeks. If .possible I would plan to take yourself and DH and baby off for Sat or Sun, or just yourself and baby. Either for morning or afternoon. It would give yourself time to yourself or selves - even if it was just to a soft play area, a walk and a coffee. I would also talk to your husband about his parents getting out more - it cannot be healthy for them to just have you three to talk with (and the friends of yours they've known for ages). Does he know their long term plans eg will you be expected to look after them when they can no longer manage by themselves? Are there any other relatives in this country? Can you suggest they join groups so they have non-family things to do?