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Wasn't sure whether to put this in weaning, breast/bottle feeding, or sleep........as it's a bit of all of them! What's going on.....

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FAQ · 16/03/2008 22:32

with DS3 - he's 9 1/2 months old. FF. was down to about 4/5 bottles (8oz) a day, and sleeping through 8-6ish. Never really eaten much - although we have sudden glimmers of hope (sometimes with BLW sometimes with me giving him stuff on a spoon).

Recently he's been having bottles up to 7/8 (or more!) a day, waking through the night (he's currently lying in his cot babbling away loudly to himself) and hardly touching any food at all...... in any shape or method of feeding.

What's going on?????

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shelleylou · 16/03/2008 22:39

He isnt teething is he? My ds went off food a bit with some of his and wanted more milk. Not tired out as muich lately. Try him on different foods. erm trying to think of more suggestions

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FAQ · 16/03/2008 22:45

he had 2 teeth come through just over a week ago (was DREADFUL - wouldn't even drink his milk!) and I'm 95% certain it's not more on their way.

Tried him on anything, and everything that we eat.....in "finger", spooned, mashed and pureed forms........if you're lucky he'll have 2 spoons of "something" or maybe one pea/cornflake/1/2mm square of ham etc etc

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shelleylou · 16/03/2008 23:11

spag bol is quite a good 1, if hes having that much milk he mite not feel hungrey for food. Is he still not asleep?

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FAQ · 16/03/2008 23:12

I went up just after my first post to give him milk as he'd started crying.....he had another 6oz..

Put him down and he babbled/shuffled around his cot for a bit but it all seems to have gone quiet.........for now.

He is having a lot of milk - but if I try and miss one/offer him food first he's just not interested, cries/screams hysterically

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shelleylou · 16/03/2008 23:15

cut each bottle down a little bit 1oz or 2 so hes a bit hungerier and offer food at different times to bottles?

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FAQ · 16/03/2008 23:19

I tried that and he just feeds more frequently (he's been average 6-8oz every 2/3hrs over the last few days!) and if I offer food when he wants a bottle we get no-where (he cries hyterically).....Trying fit food in between naps and milks that he's "demanding" is really hard - although I'm trying (perhaps not hard enough?).

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH - I thought by the time you had DC3 you were supposed to know what you were doign????

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shelleylou · 16/03/2008 23:24

Each child is different im one of 8 between my parents iykwim and none of us were alike my 1 brother was using cutlery properly at 2 another 1 was a lot older.
Its going to be hard for you and sometimes we all go for the easy option. Would it be possible to try and keep him awake a bit more so you can fit some food in then and maybe help him sleep better at night. How are you today

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FAQ · 16/03/2008 23:31

I'm not sure I could keep him awake much more - he gets up about 6am and goes to bed at 8pm. He usually has 1 1/2hr nap in the morning, and then about 2hrs in the afternoon - if he gets less than that he gets grouchy.

He just doesn't seem interested in food - I've even tried offering him breakfast instead of his morning milk (as you'd think he'd be hungry by then........) but he's not really fussed (no matter what I offer).

I may just go with what's happening right now - perhaps he'll get out of it as suddenly as he got in?? I'm not worried about his weight/size - he's in 18-24 month stuff .

I'm "ok" today - H left properly (popped over and picked up the last of his stuff this afternoon). DS1 burst into tears after he'd left - and then DS2 copied (I don't actually think DS2 would have cried if DS1 hadn't IYKWIM - he's very good at "tears on demand"). Thankfully didn't last too long. But it's all feeling very "real" now as the DS's won't actually see him again until the 29th........

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shelleylou · 16/03/2008 23:42

He's a big boy then If hes fine in himself than there isnt any need to be worried chat with the hv might shed some light on it. He could have picked up on how your feeling. It might bee a good thing the ds's not seeing him untill then as it might help them get used to the situation. I know how you feel i was the same when my xp left, its just getting used to the new situation. Hijack there hasnt been any other replies on th meet-up so if you want we can wait a few more days and see if there are any. If not well arrange 1 between ourselves.

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FAQ · 16/03/2008 23:51

Yes he's definitely a big boy - and definitely fine in himself - he's just learnt how to pull himself into a kneeling position.

I suppose he could have picked up on how I'm feeling - hadn't thought about that. The boys not seeing H for nearly 2 weeks isn't quite so bad for DS1 as it sounds - usually he would only have seen H at the weekends anyhow because of his working hours.....so (as I pointed out to DS1) he's only missing daddy for 2 days and not 13.

Yes lets leave it a few days - I'm short on cash until the end of the month - I'm hoping the IS doesn't take too long to come through.......

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shelleylou · 16/03/2008 23:56

That was a good way to put it to ds1. I hope it doesnt take to long for it to come through for you. IM a bit short at the moment anyway. If things do get really tight you could apply for a crisis loan, itll be taken out of IS each week in a few months time so you dont really notice it.

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FAQ · 17/03/2008 00:01

had the interview at the job centre on Friday and I was told she thought it was taking about a week for them to be processed at the moment -but to allow a little longer to hear from them because of the bank holiday..........didn't think to ask how much longer after "hearing" from them I'd actually have any money.

I've worked out that I should be able to make it to mid-April on the money that I currently/will have available - got a funeral to play for at church on Tuesday - get £55 for that, and my (old) work very kindly sent me a cheque for £52 in the post yesterday as I was due one night AL.

Then with child benefit, and what I've still got in my account the DD's will be able to go out, I'll be able to feed us and the ones I ring up and pay for/withdraw cash and pay at the paypoint etc can just wait until the money comes through.

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shelleylou · 17/03/2008 00:09

It will say on the letter the amount you will get and when it will be paid sometimes they send you a cheque that can be cashed immediately at the post office, it might be only to be cashed at the one you have indicated as your closest or it can be put into a bank account and take the normal x amount of working days to clear. Im, glad you should be alright untill then if not the crisis loan is an option.

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FAQ · 17/03/2008 00:11

aha - thanks for that

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shelleylou · 17/03/2008 00:15

its ok, i think its usually paid on a tuesday. When you get your first payment it'll be more than the usual £59.15 (as it is at the moment) as they will backdate it to when you made the claim. So will help you out if you have any bills to catch up on.

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FAQ · 17/03/2008 00:16

made the claim on the 7th so that should be useful when it comes through then

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FAQ · 17/03/2008 00:19

flipping 'eck - think he's waking up again! I've just heard some little noises.......like the ones he makes before he starts "shouting" (babbling) at the top of his voice......

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shelleylou · 17/03/2008 00:22

Ye it should come in handy. Hopefully itll be sorted end of the week middle of the week after at the latest, fingers crossed for you. Hopefully he just goes back of himself in a minute. I hate those nights ds was like it for a few nights last week in the end i phoned keydoc and asked them for advice of what i could try as had done everything.

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FAQ · 17/03/2008 00:24

actually - think may have been a false alarm........all gone quiet again...

middle of next week would be useful.......as when H has the DS's for the whole day on the 29th I could go and do a decent sized shop (used to go on my own and get a taxi back at the weekend/on a weekday morning) but obviously can't do that with the DS's with me).

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FAQ · 17/03/2008 00:29

anyhow, I need to go to bed - I'm still none the wise as to what's going on with DS3 - but I've had a nice chat thanks

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shelleylou · 17/03/2008 00:31

sorry i couldnt he;lp you with ds3. glad you enjoyed it. take care x

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FAQ · 17/03/2008 08:25

thanks

He woke again at 4am - drank another 7oz of milk.......

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shelleylou · 17/03/2008 10:38

he really wants to keep you on the go doesnt he. Im still trying to think of other ideas, whats he like with wet/dirty nappies could that be causing him to wake at night.

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FAQ · 17/03/2008 10:44

no dirty nappies at night - nappy isn't usually too wet (well it is at the moment as he's waking and drinking so much).

Very odd

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shelleylou · 17/03/2008 10:49

its a shame hes to young for piriton, i know its anti histamines but doc told me 2 give my ds some 2 help him sleep. Would he have water in the night if hes thursty then he might.