Etiquette question - thankyous for social events

[sleepdeprived]

I always send a thankyou after having dinner at someone's house but am not in the habit of doing it after a drinks party - I've never received a thankyou for drinks either. What is the correct thing to do? DP's boss had us round for a big 'at home' thing at the weekend and as DP is looking for promotion I want to do the right thing!

I don't think you can go wrong sending a note of thanks to the hostess, especially if it was a big do.

If it was a BIG drinks party with eats I'd be inclined to drop a note saying thanks.
My personal rule of thumb is that if you enjoyed yourselves and someone went to some kind of trouble to entertain you, then it can't be seen as too over-eager or fussy to send a short thank-you. I agree that drinks parties are the sort of event where it is not cut-and-dried...

Snap and much more succinct Lambda

Okey doke, will do

It was a finger-food type affair, but she'd obviously gone to a lot of trouble - I'll definitely thank her

We had a small 'drinks party' thing at the weekend for people in our road. A couple we don't see very often, (mostly because they're rather over-bearing, and the sort of people who 'check out' your home, and comment on every last thing....)rang the next day and left a thank you message on our answerphone.
It went along the lines of
" Hi, it's X & Y across the road. Just ringing to say that we all had a great time yesterday. In fact, we enjoyed ourselves so much that we've decided to invite you over for drinks in the New Year. I'll give you a call with some dates next week..."
All a bit bizarre really.... don't know why they didn't just come on out and say outright "we didn't think we liked you, but now we think we might, so we want you to come over so we can check you out further!!"

Tee hee. Will you be going, Mo?

I would call to say thank you for something like that. Or your DP could send him an email through work. Or you could send an email.

But wouldn't hurt to send letter all in the name of promotion.