Primary School Female Friendship not responding to my DM's

[Liberty2000]

Hi MumsNet

Would appreciate some support regarding my grown-up children (25 plus) who still meet with the same Primary school friends and when at Primary and Secondary settings all the parents of the children's group were very good friends. I have reflected on how isolating Covid was and I am trying to get in contact with these past friends - maybe have not seen each other for 7 years - after 2 weeks and 2 DM's and 1 email no one has responded. In particular, I have DM to offer the Mum of her Son's wedding recently and I wanted to get a little wedding present I have not even had any response at all. Feeling quite upset about this do not understand. Am I being over-sensitive? I do miss these friends

So you haven't had any contact with them for 7 years?

You've sent 2 DMs and an email in 2 weeks?

Do you know whether they still use Messenger (if that's how you've tried to contact them)?

Sending 3 messages in 2 weeks sounds a bit desperate. Just give them a bit of time. It can take me a week to reply to my really close friends!

Seven years?
They’ve moved on. Are your chi,dren still meeting up with their friends from school?
Try again in a few weeks with a Christmas card and a short message.

Hi littlefish thank you for taking time to respond !

to confirm we have been in contact over the 7 years via email and Dm's i did move from where they live for 7 years (4 hours car drive) and arrived back 1 year ago - just trying contact because of the sons wedding where our girls were all party of this wedding and it was lovely to see the pictures of them all

NorthStarRising thank you

I will do this and send a card - perhaps a xmas card -

@Littlefish to confirm I did not DM 2 times to 1 mum just 1 DM the other DM was to the other Mum sorry I was not clear

I think it depends a bit on what your message was.

"Hi, Not sure if everyone is aware we've now moved back to home town. I'd love to get together for a catch up. Does anyone fancy lunch or an evening meal out sometime?" is the sort of thing I would answer, even if I'd drifted away from a group.

Maybe others considered it to be a 'friendship of a time' or / 'friendly with' whilst the dc were younger, rather than personal friends, IYSWIM ?
One of my dc in particular had a really consistent group of friends throughout Primary and parents got on and helped each other out. We had Christmas drinks occasionally, or the odd BBQ, but it was definitely 'of a time' and I wouldn't now try to pick up that relationship so many years on. We were all 'friendly' because of the dc, and if there had been more of a connection with one or two, we'd have carried that on despite the move.