Partner been off with me for three weeks

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Me and my partner have a little boy together who is 7 months. He has two kids who are three from a past relationship which is relevant near the end. It started three weeejs ago he started being off with me not wanting to cuddle or kiss and I started to have that gut feeling that somthing was wrong. It then carried on to him stopping saying that he loves me or misses me and would ignore me if I was to say it. The texting has basically stopped when he is not around now blunt replies or no replies at all. He keeps not wanting to be around me. Last night he was messaging his ex I looked over and he was sending huge paragraphs but went down stairs as he said he would be down in a min. An hour later he was still not down so I came up stairs to see if he was okay. I walked in to the room he was crying . I asked him what was wrong and he told me to fuck off and get out. He asked spoken to me since then . My gut is telling me to leave him I am not happy right . He is never happy with me and our son only when is is around his other kids. When he is t with them he sulks and non stop messages his ex.

Yes, looks like ex is the woman in his life. What are you going to do? Is it your house or his house?

It’s my house

I would ask him to leave your house while you both figure out what you want. Unfortunately I think he wants his ex and you are the backup. I'm so sorry.

It sounds like he wants to go to his ex. How awful for you. Look after yourself. I’m glad it is your house at least.

@lamalamalamasquirrel I have been feeling like that’s the case for a while. I think he wants to be back with her so he can be around their kids.

This seems familiar, along with the age gap with the kids and the boyfriends investment in his older kids and ex. Have you posted before?

Regardless I'm terribly sorry, but I agree with PP and I'd ask him to leave.

I feel for you ❤️
It sounds like he's checked out of your relationship.
If he'd been crying the messages must have been emotional, he's either trying to get back with the ex or just isn't happy with you and is venting to the ex.
That said, he shouldn't be treating you like that.
Take back the power, get up this morning and tell him to sling his hook.
You're worth more than this, it's cruel.
You'll survive, it'll all feel very daunting but you'll come out the other side.
❤️

I have asked him what’s up and he says nothing is wrong. But tonight he said he doesn’t want to talk about it. I tried laying on his shoulder and he pushed me away and went down stairs

Regardless of why (though I totally get that it’s hurtful to see him texting his ex those long messages while ignoring you), it is clear that he’s checked out of the relationship. Being around someone who sighed doesn’t talk or swears isn’t healthy for you or your child.

Tell him to move out. Don’t refer to the ex; it just muddies the waters and gives him more room for excuses/lies. Tell him you’re not prepared to live with someone who treats you like this, and that he needs to leave. Repeat as necessary.

Tell him he needs to leave your home.

You deserve to be someone's number 1 choice.

Absolutely 💯

Looking at the age gap between his kids with his ex and your baby together, it seems he has not fully gotten over his ex before getting with you.

He needs to leave and sort his shit out.

Sorry op.

Sorry OP, you need to tell him to go. He doesn't get to live in your house while crying over another woman and then pushing you away when you want affection.