Is anyone scared of dying and if so are you conquering your fear in anyway?

[DiscoDizzy]

does that title make sense. In general I can talk to people about dying, I can type this without it bothering me, but if I think of the consequences (for me) of dying I get totally freaked out, in floods of tears, uncontrollable breathing. It lasts a few minutes and I need instant comfort. I can't get my head around not being here forever, not living, sampling daily life, not having my family around me. I am absolutely petrified. Is anyone else like this and have you taken any steps to try and conquer your fear? Anything can trigger this off, Notting Hill did it last night. It only lasted a few minutes but I was very upset

I look forward to it Mikafan because it will prove the existence of afterlife

I never really used to think about it or better didnt want to think about it. never happens to you kind of thing. Although we both had practicalities sorted plus good savings never liked to touch the emotional sides of things iyswim

Then DH had an accident in which he should have died but he didnt and now we realise how precious life actually is and it certainly is too short to worry as it might be over before you know it so we try to life to the full!

I have been worried about death since I was about 14, and am now 42. For me, it is the thought of not being...I can accept that I didn't exist before I was born, but I have problems accepting that I will cease to exist at some time in the future. I am terrified of the dark, and the thought of eternal darkness freaks me out. It is the thought of the actual dying bit that scares me too, as opposed to the being dead bit.

I am an agnostic RE teacher(!), so have had to talk about death a lot with my students, and still haven't managed to sort it in my mind. I have however, managed to stop dwelling on it as much, and to enjoy my life more, and be thankful for the things that I have. My death is something that I cannot change, so I have to accept it. Having watched my 93 year old Gran die 2 years ago, I think there may come a point where I am ready to die and that life isn't worth the hassle any more.....however, I'll have to be very old or ill to think that.

The only time I was frightened of dying was when I was diagnosed with cancer in 2004, and I was mostly worried about how ds and dh would cope without me. 1 week later the tumour had been removed, and I honestly never give it a thought now, although in the back of my mind I suspect I won't make it into very old age.

My brother girlfriend [of 10/15 years] died a few weeks ago. She was 30 and young and healthy, did not smoke, they had just bought a house and were going to get married next year.

She had some pain in her head which she thought was her sinuses, she got up at 7.30am had a shower, brushed her teeth and then collapsed was dead by 8.10am. it was massive brain hemorrhage then heart failure.

If I am honest as well as being upset about this and my poor bloody brother, it has really scared me. I also think a lot about my dc and I often wonder if perhaps I had been raised to beleive in God/Heaven etc perhaps it would be easier to understand?

I don't understand the whole life/death thing.

I am not scared of death, as long as my children are gron up, but I am scared of how I will die, also I dont want to ever end up in a nursing home, being bed bound and having to be fed and cleaned, imo is far worse then death, if I ever get to that stage I will welcome death.