Loud neighbours - constantly shouting and arguing

[B2023]

I’ve lived in my rental property since April. I absolutely love the house and myself, my partner, and our four month old have really settled here.

our neighbours the one side are so lovely, they always say hello to us and made us feel so welcome. The other side to us, I have never spoken to these neighbours. I have smiled and waved when I’ve seen them going in and out of the front door, and they have never once responded. I have moved out of the way for them on the pavement, not even a thank you, it’s like they purposely don’t look at you and decide not to acknowledge your existence. My partner has been parking his car and let them past in their car, not a thank you or anything, just a dirty look.

they argue daily, and when they’re arguing they punch the wall and throw things off the wall. I understand we all have our disagreements and it isn’t my business, so I don’t like to involve myself in other people’s personal lives. However they shout and scream so loud, it wakes our son up. When my son wakes up crying they sometimes bang on the wall. I try my best to calm him down as soon as I can, for my sons mental sake and our neighbours.

they have two young children, I’d say around 1.5 and 3/4 years old. From morning to night, the young girl is constantly shouting and swearing at them. I understand it can be stressful and challenging being a parent, especially when your partner goes to work and you’re stuck at home watching the children. She sometimes gets so frustrated she just screams at the top of her lungs. I hear her telling her children to “fuck off” or “get the fuck away from me, don’t fucking come near me”.

they both smoke weed, and this really doesn’t bother me. I truly believe that it’s people’s individual choice in life. What bothers me is the fact they will both sit in the garden smoking, while the kids are banging on the back door to get their attention, screaming and crying. They both just ignore them.

They really are not approachable people and we don’t want any confrontation, me and my partner just want an easy and peaceful life.

does anyone please have any recommendations on what we can do?

it’s mentally draining for me to hear this every single day and it’s causing issues with my sons sleep. The dog barks sometimes when they bang on the walls and argue, and I feel bad for our other neighbours. May I add that our dog does not usually bark for no reason, he doesn’t bark at the doorbell, fireworks, other dogs. He will only bark on command usually.

sometimes they argue until 3/4 in the morning. I don’t want to seem judgemental towards her as I’m sure it is very stressful. I’m just at my limit now really

[Lamelie]

I’d call social services. Not about the blanking of course but that’s a horrible household for the children to be growing up in. Are they at school or nursery?

[Patchworksack]

I think the only simple solution is to look for another rental. You could start logging for a council noise complaint, or if their property is rented complain to the landlord, but living next to inconsiderate, loud, unpleasant people isn’t going to get better.

[Lamelie]

Although the ‘move’ suggestion will fix it for you, it does sound as if the family need an intervention.

[siegfriedchild]

You could report to the Council Noise Complaint people, usually part of Environmental Health?

[Thegoodbadandugly]

Phone social services screaming and swearing at the children like that is unacceptable.

[B2023]

Thank you all so much for your advice. I couldn’t agree more that it isn’t acceptable or fair on the children, I feel terrible for them. I think I will definitely contact social services. Thank you all

[RachelRaccoon]

I know it must be hard and if child protection is an issue, that’s number one priority, so contact the M.A.S.H - but it sounds like they are really struggling. Is it all the time or does it get worse at certain times of the month? The lady could have a mental health issue which is why she is struggling so much, nobody wants to be like that, especially as a mum. She already probably feels like a huge failure and she’ll get no MH support if it’s found she uses weed, which I would hazard a guess is a coping mechanism. It isn’t up to you to fix this, other than to ensure the children are on Social Services radar.

[Theraininspainfalls]

This sounds so abusive for the children. You have a responsibility to report them to SS. Maybe just before you move!

[Balloonhearts]

I rang the police when my downstairs neighbours did this saying it sounded like he was hurting her as the was a lot of screaming about she needed to fucking die and crashing of stuff hitting the wall. Dispatch officer could hear the over the phone. Police broke the door open and arrested him. Their rows have been downright civil since.

[RachelRaccoon]

If she was saying that, it could have been a breakdown and he was stopping her hurting herself, unless he has form?

[Terrribletwos]

I would definitely ring SS if you arw worried about the children.