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Where do I go from here!

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4peasinapod · 25/09/2023 21:31

Dh and I have been together for 27 years. We have 5 beautiful kids and life is busy.

We had an argument last week as I had locked the back door as 18 month old is great at opening doors and running. I had him ready for bed, kitchen cleaned and food on for hubby. He was gone with dd and had returned home to the door locked, he didn't have keys so banged on the door. I reared and gave out as did he. Fast forward to this week I have tried to communicate with him and sort the issue which I thought we did to be ignored when he came home from work when I said hello to him. Tried again last night to be told he is fed up with out no sex relationship. I genuinely thought we were doing ok, yes we're not at it every night but we were at least once a week minimum. We have a busy one year old, 4 others that take a lot of my energy, I'm exhausted by bed time.
I'm a sahm and do everything with the house and kids. Life is busy.
Before we had our last baby our sex life was great, we had time. Now it feels like I'm constantly chasing my tail and I don't think I have anymore to give at this point. I feel I'm pulled in so many directions.
AIBU here, I'm open to date night counselling which he won't do. Today he is sulking again and I hate this atmosphere around the kids.
I'm really annoyed that he can't understand where I'm coming from, and ignoring me is something I've never seen before.
I can't keep battling like this life is to short.

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smallshinybutton · 25/09/2023 22:20

And what is he going to do to help you have more energy to get in the mood? Sulk and moan and complain and leave you with the kids and housework. You're not a robot. He has to work with you to solve this.

Stickycurrantbun · 25/09/2023 22:20

No wonder you don't feel like sex all the time. You're exhausted. You have 5 kids and do everything around the house and for them. And he's sulking and getting in a strop about it rather than trying to be a caring partner and share the load? How off putting.

And he kicked off last week because you were busy looking after your child, caring for their needs, keeping them safe by not leaving outside doors unlocked, yet he forgot his key so that's your fault? He's being ridiculous.

Life is too short to put up with that shit.

4peasinapod · 25/09/2023 22:26

When we spoke last night he said he loved me, and I look after the kids and house very well and the only thing that is pissing him off is the sex part.
While he was talking I was calm and thinking how the hell did I end up here. I feel further away from him then ever.

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