feel i cannot go on holiday with my DH anymore

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Does anyone feel they just cannot go on holiday with their OH?
last time we were away was 5 years ago to Mexico, so wasnt exactly the cheapest of holidays tbh. but while we were there i just felt so miserable everyday.
anything i suggested to do he didnt want to do.
paragliding, nope! doesnt like heights
water park, nope! slides are too fast which ruled out theme parks if there was any.
boat trips, nope! gets seasick
suggested many others to get told no.
ended up going on 1 excursion as it suited him - a pedalboat that he controlled.

i am dying to take my GD on holiday when she's a little bigger but i feel i'd have a better time taking her on my own.
he would take great offence to that though.

I just cannot bring myself to look at holidays cause i feel it'll be a waste of money. i would love nothing more than to have something to look forward to.

i do love my DH dont get me wrong, but even in life in general he's not very adventurous, we only go out if ive suggested it. ive deliberately not suggested anything for a whole month before and it would have continued if i hadnt been so bored and wanted to go out to dinner.

how can i get past this? anyone else in/been in the same situation?

I would go with him but organise your own trips once you are there, and let him do his own.

oh that sounds liek a plan! i could maybe find me by doing that also.
never been 1 for solo adventures but this could be my new thing lol

I wonder what his ideal holiday would be?

Is he the sort of person who prefers a very different type of holiday to you?

I think that is where I would start. Then decide what you need to do - separate holidays, or alternate holidays?

Same here OP, my DP hates heat, sand, gets bitten, gets sunburn, can't sleep, brings the wrong clothes and basically makes the whole holiday a misery. He doesn't plan anything, I have to do it all.
I've purposely not booked anything abroad since COVID to see if he would book something - no, he hasn't.
So, now I take my daughter away or go on my own. I really enjoy travel and spent several years working abroad, I miss exploring different places but I realise I don't enjoy doing it with him. He makes the whole holiday tortuous, I'd prefer to do stuff on my own rather than him turn his nose up but make absolutely no effort.
Life is short, I've got good health so I'd rather o it on my own than regret it later.

You might find that if he sees you going off on an adventure he’ll want to give it a go and join you, but equally if he’s happy sitting in a deck chair then that’s ok.
Cruises are quite a good way to experience different excursions. It’s not all coach parties- I’ve been SUP boarding, zip lining, river tubing, hiking, off roading, land sailing, helicopter rides etc. It’s all organised for you and lots of people do excursions on their own. Plus you get to meet other people too.
Your DH could choose more gentle trips or none at all if he’d rather just veg out by the pool

@steppemum I honestly do not know, i thought i did but it seems he's quite happy to go walks and sit at the pool/beach. i can do that for so long but theres much more to a holiday in my eyes than chilling lol.
i love adventure and exploiring, he just doesnt seem phased by it at all.

Well my hubby doesn't like adventure rides, rock climbing and the list goes on but then again I'm not keen on his hobby if looking at ancient places,war graveyards etc. So our holidays are always a mix of what all like and what our personal likes are and tbh we still do them together for example I still enjoy the walks hubby does to these places and he will come theme park and still enjoy food etc so can't say I've ever felt miserable.It just sounds unfair your other half not doing a bit of give and take I guess

@Acheyknees its just awful isnt it, but you are right, life is short!
i think i will try again and if he says no to something, go on my own, he will freak! lol

@Escapingtherealityoflife A cruise sounds absolutely spot on! thank you.
i will definitely look into that

@Ladyj84 yeah hes quote happy going walks etc, i dont mind that to an extent but it's my holiday too and seems all a bit 1 sided. i have tried talking to him about it but he just shrugs it off "not my fault i dont like these things" i just cant win. im leaning towards the solo excursions, perhaps i might start to enjoy holidays again