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What young girls wear...

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Yorkiegirl · 15/12/2004 21:56

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Flumberrysauce · 16/12/2004 15:40

Oh Nom de Plume - i can't believe you've brought that up!! I never should have said it - a rash moment of honesty.

But I really do find it odd when people - any people who have a flabby belly where hipster jeans and cropped tops. its just wierd.

I mean I don't wear bumless jeans to show off my cellulite now do I? Or do I you will never know.....

Bronzed tummys - v. nice.

I spose when our whole culture gets flabby as we seem to be going that way it will become acceptable to hang out your tummy, and I will just have to learn to love it.

NomDePlumPudding · 16/12/2004 15:45

Lol, Flum

Tanzie · 17/12/2004 01:04

WMT, I'm in Belgium. I haven't lived in UK for years, and when I saw a group of young teen girls here on a school trip last year I was shocked not only at how fat most of them were (I'd say average size must have been about an 18) but the clothes they were wearing - low slung jeans and crop or bra tops. They thought this was quite acceptable to wear looking around a church (and to be frank, the teacher should have known better and asked them to cover up or not go in).

CP · 17/12/2004 09:45

I think the problem here is a lack of discipline. Parents should be standing ground and not buying these clothes then the manufacturers would be forced to provide what we want. I think that whoever pays for the clothing should have the final say, I remember not being allowed to wear black as a teenager as my mother thought it innapropriate. I seriously think that in schools they need to enforce make-up, hair and dress rules too. I am so sick of the lack of discipline in this place.

Enideepmidwinter · 17/12/2004 09:51

I am quite shocked at some of the language/attitudes on this thread. These 11 year olds aren't tarts or slappers. Clothes don't make someone sexually available. They are just clothes. The case of the attempted rape of the girl outside a nightclub - what does it matter what she was wearing?

I can see that it may seem odd for young girls to wear short skirts and make up, but at the end of the day should we really get so wound up about what they wear?

CP · 17/12/2004 09:53

No, I agree, they are not tarts or slappers. You and I know this but does the peodaphile around the corner know? Does the hormone infused mid-teen boy full of alcohol know? Why court trouble when it is just as easy to avoid it?

sassy · 17/12/2004 11:20

I think its the double message that is being given out, Enid. Of course the way children (or anyone) dresses doesn't imply that they are 'asking for it', but as a society we seem to be hysterical about paedophiles while at the the same time sexualising children (esp little girls). very strange situation, IMO.

Flumberrysauce · 17/12/2004 12:33

Do you remember being 11?

Listen to us all we sound like our Mothers!

RudolphCAM · 17/12/2004 18:26

I must admit I let dd age 7 wear more or less what she likes - she likes high fashion but I tend to buy the slightly more expensive end of clothes so its not usually as tacky. Dd thinks of clothes and kid's makeup as fun, its playing to her so I don't get uptight about it. I used to wear some fairly shocking things particularly from 11 onwards - the fashion today is v. similar (hippy chick style) and my parents simply used to laugh at my taste!

Tanzie · 17/12/2004 23:04

I agree with Sassy! Saw some padded bras for 6 & 7 year olds the other week in a "trendy" shop here. They were all half price, so they'd obviously had no takers (thankfully!).

tamula · 17/12/2004 23:06

I think its all about parental control.

I'm not embarassed to admit neither do I feel like my mother or a dictator, to tell my child what she can and can not wear surely that is my role as parent.

We give birth to our children and not vice-versa. At the end of the day unfortunately we do not live in a society whereby it doesnt matter what these young children wear, it does matter, it does draw inappropriate attention, that they are not mature enough to handle.
Its also the breeding ground of our girls to begin that journey of being obsessed about their weight, paying attention to their size and shape, wanting to look like the latest celeb and buying in too early to the mass consumerism and hype dicatated to us through magazines, movie stars and celebs etc of how the female form should be.

I'll have none of it in my house and like it or lump it neither will any child of mine.

I cant think why parents would allow their children to own such provactive clothing.

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