So who takes care of *you*? (Bit of a rant)

[emkana]

I'm feeling sorry for myself today. I'm tired, run-down, stressed with the children, esp. my 16-month-old dd2 who's hard work at the moment.
And I'm thinking: Who ever takes care of me? I'm always thinking of dh's and dds's needs, trying to make life run smoothly for them, and who looks after me? Nobody .
Even though the dd's gave me lovely hugs and kisses today when I had a bit of a cry.
But dh is useless!

ahh this is how i felt recently big hugs to you. It is hard but keep going think of all that you love in dd and in dh. can you try and get an afternon off as such - could dh take some annual leave so you can have some me time?

Dh will have time off next week, and over Christmas, so I'll try to get some rest then.
It just bugs me sometimes that it never seems to occur to him that I might need some looking after. Just takes it for granted that I keep going.

Oh emkana, how horrid
Lots of hugs to you - tell your husband you need some TLC and in the meantime, we'll look after you here

I take care of me. i am currently splitting myself between the kids, my appointments and visiting dh in hospital.

am about to go fix my dinner for one.

as nice as fellas can be sometimes they are as thick as shit. i think you need to sit down with him and say that you appreciate he works hard and you hope you show your appreciation - does he think you do

how will he reply?

then say i work hard to but i feel a bit neglected but then you have to specify what it is you would like to see...do flowers or little gifts do it for you? for me its a good back scratch and a brew in the bath- it doesnt have to cost 'owt to be thought of does it - i think thats what needs stating - you never know your other half might feel a bit neglected too - which makes it easier actually becuase you can both resolve to do something nice for eachother without him feeling like he has done something wrong.

whaddya think?