Husband looking at provocative videos?

[samybooker]

Hey, no negative comments here please. I am a very chill wife, let my husband do what he wants, I do not snoop or go looking for anything. We are both 26, married for 4 years and have a 10 month old.
Genuinely just here for opinions as I don't want to under react or over react. No point explaining the long story but anyway let's just say I ended up on my husbands phone I couldn't find mine and I had just got our daughter to sleep and was bored but didn't want to put the telly on as that would wake her. I went straight on YouTube, and the videos that were '' recommended'' or '' continue watching '' looked very Pervy so I of course went on his history to see what he had watched. Basically about 40 videos of half naked girls walking the streets. Some creepy man with a camera following them round on nights out recording their arses or whatever most of them had next to nothing on and the Chanel was called 50 shades something ... was a weird Chanel. How would you feel about this? Do I worry or do I just forget it? I really don't know haha! I was shocked but haven't really reacted as I am still dealing with post partum rage lol and don't want to be acting out of that if this isn't a big deal ... but then part of me says it is haha

Ew.
I suppose it’s not so far from porn, and that seems to be ok for some, but it would be a no from me.

@DustyLee123 I was thinking ew too..
what would you do if you was me? I really don't want to seem crazy but I can't ignore it

Just want to confirm the videos were of women so of age! But still some guy following them round on a night out with them dressed in very little recording them? Abit weird

My husband was looking at and reading news articles about only fans models and that girl who is some football teams "hottest fan" repeatedly, it sounds so silly to write it down as it's literally just news but there were hundreds of half naked girls on "news" stories on his reading history on his iPhone news app and I never brought it up that I saw it but it still it annoys me months later. I say you're better to ask him about it and tell him it bothers you.

@babasmama yeah I am glad I am not the only one that these little things get to me. It makes me annoyed that I don't do anything like that. I don't watch videos of half naked men on YouTube, it doesn't even cross my mind. Why do some men have this need to look elsewhere when they already have someone? Iknow that sounds so crazy! Omg! But I always think if they are looking on purpose what else are they capable of? Is this the start of something bigger? What is he thinking of whilst watching them videos? Am I not enough? God sake haha they do not get how one small thing can cause a ripple effect of emotions and doubts

I think porn would be better, at least the people in it hopefully know that are in it. That sounds creepy as fuck.

@Allmyghosts
That's what I thought. Even though I don't really like the idea of porn least it is consented and pretty standard for men to watch it. This was weird. Some man following girls on nights out recording them. Like I said most of them in tiny dresses with their arses out pretty much or their boobs. It just felt weird

I don't like it at all.:(

Honestly, I have the exact same issue.
Which lately has become such a problem for me. I am insecure and feel like a fool.

My husband and I have been together for 10 years now, married for less then a year.
Baby on the way, I am 32 weeks.

He is so loving and caring, I won't deny that however;

His search history always has porn videos, instagram posts about only women
Even his YouTube shorts only show stuff about women.

I don't know how to deal with it. I have spoken to him about it probably 3 different times in our relationship but i think he might get better at hiding it. He told me it's honestly nothing to worry about.

But, why do you feel the need to look at it? To seach for it, am I not enough, yes I get it. You are a man, "in your nature" but surely you are secretly fantasizing about those woman and I am afraid that your fantasy world is more enjoyable to you then your actual wife?

He doesn't really share his sexual fantasties with me, he obviously enjoys his private time more... we have sex about once a week?

I just wish I could be enough for one person. He obviously lacking something. Am i doing it wrong?