Anyone else's other half trying to give up smoking at the moment?

[Melly]

Was wondering if anyone else has a partner who is currently trying to give up smoking. My dh is doing really well and has gone almost two weeks now without a cig. I'm finding it really difficult to know how to support him properly, especially as I have never smoked myself. He didn't start until he was about 27 (is now 38) and I'm so pleased that he is having a go at quitting before too much damage is done to his health.
The main problem at the moment is dealing with his moodiness....I know this is to be expected but to compensate for the cigs, he is drinking quite heavily, and getting very argumentative although he is never aggressive as such. I'm pregnant so have plenty of my own hormones raging around and am finding it very wearing having to tread on eggshells all the time. I know he has to get through this stage but I was wondering how long he will feel so irritable for? He is using patches but they don't seem to be doing much for the craving.
I really want to offer my support but I'm not sure what other things I can do to help. I've suggested that he treats himself to something (he has various hobbies) on a regular basis with some of the money he is saving but he doesn't seem that interested.....should I go ahead and buy something for him as an incentive??
Has anyone got any other ideas or suggestions

I stopped smoking (30 a day) a couple of years ago. I just decided one morning that, that was it.
I ate alot of oranges!!!!!!!! Every time i had the urge to light up i went and got a satsuma from the bowl. It took a few weeks for the craving to go,and i was quite unbearable at times, it still rears its ugly head in times of stress and i have fallen off the wagon a couple of times, but i would never go back to being out of breath and smelly!!!!!!! Not that others smoking bothers me, i am just more aware of the smell on my own clothes if i have been in a smokey atmosphere

I am in the same situation. My DH is trying to give up smoking and I have never smoked so can't imagine what he's going through. He's done almost 5 months now but in the first few weeks there were many occasions when he was snappy and irritable and I was not at all sure on what to say or how to tackle it. The conclusion I came to was that giving up was entirely down to him, the decision to do it in the first place and the willpower to continue. I only really mention it if he brings up the subject and under no circumstances I ask him if he's craving a ciggie. This tactic seems to have worked because he now is a lot, lot calmer and also talks to me about it. So my advice is to step back and let him get on with it.

Thanks Meid, I think that sounds like very sensible advice. I suppose rather than buy him treats perhaps I should just get him something extra nice for Christmas, this way I won't be making a big issue out of it.

Hi Melly, my dh has done it too, same as yours on patches for the last 2 weeks or so. However, my dh isn't snappy at all, but when he quit before without patches he was a nightmare and I almost wanted him to start again. Apparantly because they are using patches, this should be cutting the irritability side-effect? I have also quit and am doing great, same as Lewei, I am eating satsumas all the time! I haven't been snappy and am not using patches, but then I'm pregnant and so happy to be so I cannot imagine smoking! The way I induldge my dh to show how proud I am, is cooking him really nice meals and telling him how well he is doing. Does your dh exercise, that can help too. When my dh was snappy last time I kind of left him to it. Its awfull to be around, but then it'll be worth it in the long run. Good luck!