How demeaning is this.....

[Shattered]

I happened to catch an episode of Oprah today where a married couple were being counselled because they were having problems, & I couldn't quite believe what I was hearing. The woman was a housewife who had been looking for ways to earn some extra money, so the husband suggested that he pay her to perform certain duties. He gave her $30 for cleaning the house, then $20 if she had sex with him a certain number of times a week. If she wanted any extra money on top of that, she had to have more sex with him - she said at one point that they were doing it at least 14 times a week!!! She was an attractive woman but I couldn't believe she was letting herself be pushed around like that, she just sat there & said "I don't feel good about myself anymore, I feel like a prostitute." I wonder why!!!!!! Unbelievable. Can't quite put into words what I think of the guy...

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And was he able to walk when he left the studio, Shattered?

Well, presumably she wasn't forced to have sex with him? I mean, she was getting money for doing what she did anyway. Er, am I a bit thick, cos I can't see the problem. Unconventional maybe, but her problem of having little cash has been solved for a bit anyway.

Sounds like their marriage wasn't much of a partnership - she had no money, but he apparently had at least $310 a week to spend how he liked!??

tinker, I think I'd have a problem with it. IMO if one half of a couple works outside the home and the other brings up the children, then they should both have equal access to all incoming money. She shouldn't be obliged to "perform duties" to get some money and she should be having sex with her partner because she wants to, not because she needs new shoes.
I wonder if he gave her household money? maybe she could have "worked" for other people to bring in more money?
eugh he sounds like a bit of a control freak.

Did Doctor Phil have something to say about it?

Did they have kids? I've jokingly said to my dh that he should pay me for services rendered! However if that was the case I'd only be working on a VERY part time basis! So if she was having sex 14 times a day, she'd be loaded!

I can see how this can be demeaning for her. But from Tinker's point of view, if you are confident with yourself, why not demand money from your dh/dp for everything that you do? At least then you feel you are getting a proper wage. If my dh suggested this I wouldn't have a problem with it, in fact, the house would be spotless and he'd be jumped on more times than is good for him!

Jasper, Dr Phil was there, he really let the guy have it!!! I would've too.

Maybe it's just me, but I definitely have a problem with it... agree with you eefs. Just seems like a form of prostitution, the poor woman was miserable. He was obsessed with sex and she was just going along with it because she needed some money to spend on herself and on the house. Don't know if they had kids, that wasn't mentioned for some reason. I think he was giving her some household money but it obviously wasn't enough. Perhaps she should've just gone out and gotten a job..?

Don't know if I came across all righteous earlier, it's hard to get the balance right with words only.
I suppose I couldn't totally blame him, she did settle for this arrangement and I'm sure there were other options open to her. If she had the selfconfidence to get as much as she wanted without feeling demeaned, then she could be accused of taking advantage of her DH.