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pointless poll of the day...

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fryalot · 20/02/2008 08:10

After a surprising conversation with dp, I was wondering...

when you were a little girl, was it your ambition to be a housewife?

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hecate · 20/02/2008 08:15

Yes, in a way. I wanted to be married and have children. I always knew that formed part of my life 'plan'.

I wanted to have a family.
I understood that I was going to have to work to earn a living -- If you see where I'm coming from. But all I wanted was to be part of a family and have someone who loved me.

God I think I made myself feel sick.

TrinityRhino · 20/02/2008 08:18

yes, always wanted a huge family anbd to look after the house and children

shame I'm so shite at it

funnyhaha · 20/02/2008 08:21

No.
Although I knew I wanted a family life, & that kids would be important to me (as my 'life predictions' written at various ages testify)

pelafina · 20/02/2008 08:21

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fryalot · 20/02/2008 08:29

weee-eeeell, the conversation was about housewives and how much they would be paid if their 'jobs' were outsourced (about 30 grand I think) and dp said that he thought most (most) women aspired to become housewives. I disagreed and said that most women probably felt that it was inevitable that if they wanted the family life then they would at some point have to think about being a housewife and interrupting their careers, etc. But I felt that most women probably wanted to be a doctor/vet/train driver... whatever and kind of fell into being a SAHM or the like.

Just wondered whether he is in any way right and most women do actually aspire to become a housewife?

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Maidamess · 20/02/2008 08:35

No, I wanted to be a teacher. And I nearly am.

LilRedWG · 20/02/2008 08:36

I'm not really a housewife (my housework is shit and DH and I tend to do the bulk of it together at the weekend) but I'm definitely a SAHM!

When I was very little I thought that I was adopted and my real mum was a tennis ace and would come and get me and I'd win Wimbledon! Not quite sure where that one came from - I adore my mum and am crap at tennis!

Then I got a bit older and wanted to be in the police.

Then I met my first boyfriend and wanted to stay at home and be a housewife and mum. After he dumped me and I thought of the police again.

By the time I met DH (at the tender age of 17) I wanted a career and swore that I would never have the patience to stay at home with children! This belief continued until I was on ML with DD and couldn't bear to leave her to return to work!

LilRedWG · 20/02/2008 08:37

Haven't answered your question at all there Squonk - just rambled aimlessly!

When DD goes to school I'm thinking of retraiining as a teacher.

happystory · 20/02/2008 11:09

I don't think I thought about the 'housewife' bit, although I definitely liked playing with dolls, dolls' houses etc and helping my mum iron, cook, shop (not clean!)

Like others, as I got older (11,12) I definitely knew I would like children, but work was always in the equation too, though vague about what exactly....

I used to tell my mum I wanted 5 kids and a nanny and she just used to smile indulgently...

nickytwotimes · 20/02/2008 11:12

I never wanted to be a housewife or a Mummy.
Never liked dolls or pinky stuff.
I'm now a SAHM and happy spending time with lo, but i wouldn't call myself a housewife. Dh earned more than me so it made economic sense for me to stay home and him to work.

Kathyis6incheshigh · 20/02/2008 11:15

No, and I remember when I was at primary school there was one girl whose ambition was to be a housewife and the rest of us all thought that was a bit odd.

I did imagine having a family, but that would always be alongside working.

FAQ · 20/02/2008 11:16

no when I was a little girl I wanted to be a church organist when I grew up LOL.

princessosyth · 20/02/2008 11:18

No way, even right from a very young age I wanted to work. I wanted 4 children and I wanted to work as a primary school teacher or a DSS benefits advisor (strange career choice for a 7 year old!) . As it turns out I am a SAHM of one child so far!

themildmanneredjanitor · 20/02/2008 11:19

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chrissnow · 20/02/2008 11:24

Nope I was going to be a career woman with a string of men and would just be cool 'auntie' to all of my friends children. . . .
Was almost last to marry and first to have a baby!!!
Happy with the way it's all turned out really.

Flum · 20/02/2008 11:27

Yes wanted to be a 'proper mummy' who made tea everynight and gave the kids hotwater bottles before bed.

Made my poor mum feel so guilty as she worked full time. She has told me since, that she really regrets it as the slightly better house, holidays etc did not make up for not being around for us.

I also wanted to be an Air Stewardess and a famous Number worker.

I am actually an accountant.

My daughter wants to be a Mummy when she grows up.

hifi · 20/02/2008 11:57

i said i would rather die than be a housewife like my mum, all the drudgery.
all i wanted was a sports car and to be able to make really good breakfasts, have one out of the two.
never wanted to get married and told my mum she would have to look after my children while i went out to work to support my fantastic lifestyle. funny how things change.

LadyOfWaffle · 20/02/2008 11:58

Yep, but run some stables also. Big house, millions of kids and animals... I can't even look after a tiny house and a nearly 2 year old! [pants]

sfxmum · 20/02/2008 12:01

to OP no never wanted children / white wedding marriage etc does any little girl

chiefcookandbottlewasher · 20/02/2008 12:02

my only ambition was to do something that involved wearing a power suit. Didn't care waht it was! How materialistic is that? (and how ironic that i am sitting here in a pair of tracky bottoms with a big hole on my left bum cheek

Carmenere · 20/02/2008 12:06

I wanted to be a doctor. Am a journo - I would be far better off financially as a doctor

BoysOnToast · 20/02/2008 12:08

nope.
was led to believe being a housewife was a bit shit really.
was told to be something amazing.
but every ambition i expressed was rubbished in reality;
explorer = 'all been found'
sailor = 'girls cant do the fun stuff, and even if they could youd have to kill people and that would be unspeakable.'
astronaut - 'get real.'

ok, so the astronaut thing a touch unlikely, but the answers to the rest just arent true.

later on i wanted to be a politician or journalist, but figured id only be devastated when my idealism met reality. and i didnt have the fees for journalism school i got myself into. and no-body offered them (should have asked. too much pig headed pride)

oh, and pilot. looked into it, thought having a minimum 50k for a course was only way in, other than military, and so was a no go.

so i did pissing about for a while, and now im a housewife who doesnt do housework. and isnt a wife. i do have a house tho. well, i live in one.

why am i typing all this??

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