am I over thinking

[justwanttoquit]

My husband was at the start of our relationship flirting with other women. I've suspected him of cheating, but no concrete proof. Definite emotional cheating tho. 3 years ago he started messaging exes (again as we've had this issue before), saying he wanted to be with them and was willing to leave me etc. I found out, we had words but he said it was down to grief (not long lost his dad), depression and anxiety. We worked on it together. He also got meds and therapy. Seemed to work. Everything seemed to be going ok. Now I found out, he's been telling other women he loves them and similar. He keeps saying sorry, he means nothing by it, its ok to do this, as their people on his groups (it's not family or friends he's saying this to). He won't do it again etc. He shows me no love, care or concern. It's why this hurts so much more. I'm I over thinking all this? Is it all in my head? Do I need to get over it?

Why are you still with him?
Loving husbands don’t behave that way.

It's not all in your head. You deserve much better than this and he's not going to change.

Thanks for your input. I'm saving up to move out (his house). He was my 1st partner, so I had nothing to measure it against, so was unsure.

Thanks for your input. He was my 1st partner, so had nothing to measure it against, I was unsure. I also didn't know if I was being difficult, as he's had depression etc. I now know that, thanks to you that have replied, thats it's not in my head and getting out is the best option.

Yes, you need to leave. Decent men don't do this.

He is using depression to disguise him being a cunt..

You are not overthinking. This isn't acceptable behaviour in a partner.

Thanks everyone for your advice and words of support. I appreciate it all. It's improved my mental health a lot. Thanks again.

He’s a liar and he’s keeping you dangling. Get rid.