OW !!! I've buggered my foot and DH is an arse...

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About an hour ago I was sorting out the washing upstairs and I managed to to trip over one of DS2's playstation 2 controllers. I fell on the floor and banged my arm on the way down which is now sporting a delicious blue/red dappled bruise. I got myself up and then somehow managed to get my right foot entangled in the metal of the laundry bin, total Frank Spencer moment. Fell over again and felt a searing pain through my foot. Tried to stand but can't bear weight on the dodgy foot, managed to get myself downstairs and phoned DH to tell him that I'd a) hurt myself and b) it meant that I wouldn't be able to do the school run as driving isn't an option. He was unsympathetic to say the least.

Pain is BAD and I suspect that I've either broken a toe or damaged a ligament/tendon, either way it f*ing hurts.

Have made alternative arrangements for the DSs and DD has been asleep since before it happened, christ knows how i'll manage when she's awake. Thankfully, at 2y 4m she can walk and use the stairs safely without me.

Phoned DH again to give him an update (as requested) re the arrangements for the kids and he basically told me that I'm an inconvenience . He's off out tonight, for the second of three work nights out this week so I'll be holding the fort here . DS1 has to go to the GP tomorrow to have some stitches removed and I doubt I'll be able to drive him there, DH has made me feel like a complete burden, not great when you already feel a total pillock for falling over the washing...

I've spoken to a couple of friends since, who have been really nice, even offering me lifts to a&e despite the fact that they have kids/lives of their own. If they could manage it, why couldn't DH ?

I'm sorry your DH isn't being sympathetic. It's hardly like you did it on purpose.

Please do get yourself to A+E as soon as you can, these sorts of injuries can be made worse by not treating them. (Also, in the interim, keep the foot up, if you can, and ice it.)

Of course if this had happened to him your road would have been blocked with emergency vehicles and paramedics by now....MEN
Do get it looked at soon if you can, NDP, it sounds nasty. Sorry to hear about it.

tell DH to wise up - you didn't deliberately injur youself to inconvenience him. Tell him you are not able to walk and so can't do kids - he will have to miss his work do, or go after kids are sorted. He would have to if you have broken your leg or ended up in hospital !

You are so right Marina...

I know I should get it checked out but I won;t have time to sit in A&E and wait to be seen, then wait for an x-ray etc, as the kids are due home in an hour or so, DD is in bed and DH is out tonight.

Oh you poor thing. Really feel for you.

I fell down the stairs once and landed on this massive vase we had (note had!) and I tore ligaments in foot. Really hurt. When I screamed up the stairs in agony for DP he got out of bed, looked down stairs at me, and thenwent back to bed!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!! I asked him to get me to the hossie and he moaned that I'd ruined his lie in!!!!!!!!!! OMG again!!!!!!!!!!
I rang my mum and in a loud voice asked if she'd come and get me cos DP couldn't be bothered. He was very shame faced after that but I made sure he felt as bad as pss for as long as poss.

Total bastards, yours and mine.

Hope ypu're okay. Lots of sympathy from me.
Take care.

& lol, TC !

Tearing ligaments hurts like hell, much more so than a break. I did the tendons in my wrist and thought they'd have to amputate, the pain was so excruciating.

DH has just sent me a text saying 'Numpty!', it took all my will power not to type profanities back at him.

Numpty MY ARSE!!!!!!!!!!
I feel a dog food pie coming up if he doesn't make up for being horrid and unsympathetic.
Can you begin to imagine the fuss that they would make. Not that they'd ever trip carrying th ewashing, they wouldn't be carrying washing in the 1st place! . But seriuosly imagine he'd fallen and hurt himslef, ha haaaaaaaa, oh the dreams that would ensue

Wishing your poorly foot better asap, xx

That should read DRAMAS not dreams! Typing SOOOOOO bad.

My last text to him was so sweetly guilt-inducing that he is back pedalling at a pace Chris Boardman would struggle with

NdP, I fell down the stairs a few weeks ago(about 6 now I think). A&E suspected it was ligament damage but weeks later I still can't bend it in certain ways (kneeling to change DS3 nappy is an absolute no-no).

Because of this I suspect I probably fractured it so MAKE SURE YOU GET AN XRAY.

Hope it's feeling better soon.

It does feel like some sort of a ligament damage as if i try to move one particular toe slightly up or down, I get a really painful 'pulling' feeling right through my foot to my ankle, there's a degree of resistance too, almost like i'm pulling against an elastic band.

Sorry to hear that NDP - it can be a bit dodgy with those types of injuries so you should really go and get it looked at to see what the damage is IMO - is there any swelling?

Sorry your dh is being mean about it (to say the least!) - does he often react like that or do you think he's having a bad day? No excuse either way though. You do a lot and I think he should appreciate you more.

NdP... he said WHAT!? An inconvenience??? Wife in pain defo should come BEFORE pissup with colleagues!!!

Hmmmm, revenge might be sweet... stop ironing his shirts, because you can't stand up doing the ironing due to foot injury and sitting on a chair won't do either as you have to put your foot up and the board would be in the way... not that I'm the vengefull type

I'd definitely make a point of it though to him that friends who've also got a busy life were more than willing to help you.
Defenitely go to have your foot checked out. If it feels like theres a rubbery resistance when pushing a certain way you might have dislocated it. Done that several times to my little toe, it always seems to find those hard corners. But I'm lucky, my hubby is VERY caring, hope you're comes round.

As for feeling silly for falling over the washing... that's nothing... I fell into the bin once!

[hugs]

ndpp- Read your post. Skimmed through the rest. So sorry if i'm repeating myself... but Grrrr!. If it were me.. and others may think i'm a little extreemist. I wouldn't be there when he got home. I'd take up one of your friends on their very helpful offer and maybe stay with them for the night. Then he can think about it when he gets home. Make yourself a doctors appointment for tomorrow or even an emergency one for tonight if it's bad enough, so you can get it checked out and also so HE knows it's not dramatics. And if he asks why you weren't there just say "Well, i was in a lot of pain and couldn't do anything by myself so xxx offered to help me out. And as NEEDED the help, i took it" . (But like i said that's what I'D do)
We all have accidents from time to time. You shouldn't feel silly. When men injure themselves the world has to stop turning for them.. I don't think expecting him to care is to much to ask.

NdP - if you want to do the A&E thing after 7pm ish - I'm happy to come and kid sit for as long as it takes if you can find someone else to take you there. My dh can go to pub late - it won't kill him. Phone me.

I'm sorry (actually I'm not) but what a w*nker. If that was my husband, and he wasn;t having an extremely bad day today, he'd be having one tomorrow... and the next day... and....

I think you should send him a text about the time he gets to the pub/restaurant/wherever he is going and just say that you are on the way to the hospital. Then, arrange for you and the kids to sleep somewhere else and just don;t contact him agaim He can wake up in the morning with no one there and the last communication he will have recieved is that you were on your way to the hospital.

And, if THAT doen't bother him... then I just kill him (just kidding).

Hello all

Well I told my DH that GeorginaA was prepared to re-jig her family plans to accomodate my injury, and it made him feel suitably guilty that he only went out for the meal and not the booze up afterwards. He got home at 9.15pm and I went to casualty.

Had an xray etc and there's no breaks or obvious ligament damage, aside from swelling and bruising. I've been told that it's a bad sprain and that I need to rest it and keep it elevated as much as poss (yeah, like that'll happen with 3 kids!). When I said 'Great!' about the lack of breaks the doc then told me that it doesn;t really make a huge difference as a sprain will still take 6 weeks to heal and will cause just as much pain as a break , bugger.

BTW, my DH really is normally one of the most patient, sensitive and openly affectionate blokes usually.

I have had bad sprains before - couldn't walk for days and needed crutches - they do take a few weeks before they stop hurting and you have to be gentle on them for quite a while. Did they give you any physio exercises ? If not ask to be referred to a physio.