Sister still lying.

[FancyFran]

We had a family funeral this week, youngest sibling. I am NC with my sister due to constant claims of miss treatment of our late father and then a horrendous situation when her DIL went to dinner with our stalker (not an over egging situation,, he came to our home and was cautioned by the police). My daughter ended up in hospital due to his actions. My sister has no empathy for our situation and blames it on us. At the funeral this week she told our cousin I was an appalling person who deserved everything I got. She didn't want my brother when he had no where to live or even send any flowers. Her children left home at 16/18. She has tried to turn everyone against me for 6 years and she did it again this week. What would you do? I have had enough of her lies. She bullied me as a child and broke my nose, arm and fingers. She works in a bloody school too!

um I would go zero contact with her and never see her again.

I would refuse to comment on her and not engage in conversation with anyone else about her.

just cut her out completely and move on.

Im sorry to hear about your loss. You really don't need the stress of your sister on top of yoir grief.
Do the people who love and know you believe a word she says? Have people distanced themselves from you as a result of her malicious rumours?
Honestly, people will know her, what her personality is like, what a nasty character she is and probably don't even bat an eyelid, although I understand how utterly devastating her words must be to you.
I guess you could ask a solicitor to send a cease and desist letter if she is spreader rumours of mistreatment or abuse about you but she doesn't sound like the kind of person who would listen or care.
I'd you weren't already, go NC, block her on all SM and from being able to contact you. Maybe keep a diary of all she does in case things escalate and you need to involve the police.
Just try live your life as if she doesn't exist and try be happy.

Thank you both.
I will send her a solicitors letter if I hear anything more. My life is better without her in it and her own children find her difficult. I needed to sleep on it and think a bit more rationally.

She broke your nose, arm and fingers? Jesus Christ. Do not allow her any access at all to you and your life. She’s a monster.

@Abacusporttaco my sister was always aggressive which spilled over into physical violence. My mother never stopped her. I am looking at my bent little finger now. My sister left me to care for our elderly parents as I worked from home. She visited once a fortnight. She lived 30 minutes away with grown up children. At their funerals she was inconsolable. Guilt I thought but more like attention seeking. We had financially supported my parents for 18 years with no contributions from my siblings. When my father died my sister accused me of stealing his pension. Complete nonsense and I proved it. We had used all our savings to enable me to stop work and nurse him. I forgave her but the Christmas before last I found out she was feeding my stalker personal information (new home loca etc). That I think is beyond appalling. I stopped speaking to her. When our recently deceased brother went into hospital she told me to fuck off when I informed her. She was always a nosey control freak. Her children both left home very young and she is married to a miser. Her first husband was lovely but she had an affair. I think it is fair to say she has always hated me but I didn't do anything to cause it. It might be because I was born! All of the family talk to me but it was devastating to hear that she was telling a big ordinance at my brother's funeral that I am not to be trusted. I guess she is unhappy with her lot.