So, am I the only woman in the country who doesn't 'do' mother's day?

[BroccoliSpears]

I don't get my mother anything. We get on fine, she just thinks it's a bit of a hallmark holiday. I get her flowers and stuff at other times of the year just because she's my mum.

I won't be expecting anything from dp. I'm not his mum. Dd is too little to do anything. (I'll be delighted with the sticky, pasta-encrusted cards that start filtering home from school in a few years time).

MIL is dp's step mother and would find it very strange to get anything from him. She's not his mum.

Mothers' Day will pass unnoticed in the Spears household.

Reading the thread about what everyone else gets up to I'm wondering if I should rethink my strategy! I'd like some flowers, and smellies, and to be taken out to lunch...

um - when is it mothers day ?

I sort of do it - in that I usually get my mum something - but only if we are seeing her at the relevant time - don't bother with a card.

DH doesn't get me anything - only gets his mum something if I remind him.

yes the last line is the clincher isn't it?

I think it's fine, you all sound happy with things the way they are

You sound as if you used to be happy but are now aware you've been missing out.

I'd announce a change of policy on Mothering Sunday PDQ if I were you.

well......I don't agree with mothers day as such, as I do feel it is a time for the card companis and flower shops to make masses of money out of us, but......

it is the one day that I can guarantee a lie in, dinner cooked, ironing done (well, the uniforms for school at least), and most important.......not having to worry about making the kiddies lunchboxes for at least once in the entire year!!!

so, for that reason alone, I take good notice of mothers day.......

My mum used to throw the Mothers Day things I was forced to make at school at me. I don't go that far, and vaguely pretend to be grateful, but actually I loathe it too. I've told DH in no uncertain terms that he is strictly not to arrange anything for me, and that I refuse point blank to do anything for Fathers Day.

I love mothers day but this year is my first!!

I do mother's day but not father's day at my dad's request.

My dad has always insisted that fathers' day in our family should be his birthday claiming that these celebrations were invented by card/ gift companies to extort large sums of money from us.

The special day thing has gone a bit far though with some card- some I have seen recently include Grandparents day and Nurses day.
Hallgerda- your mum used to throw your gifts at you!
Really maternal!

Mother's day does not have to be about money. We celebrate. The dc make homemade cards (dh helps) and make my breakfast and we do something together as a family.

I am not my dh's mother but he helps our youngest ds with the card. He believes the children should show appreciation to me for the things I do as their mum and sheer hard work that goes with being a mum.

My hubby buys me flowers and cards and the kids write them or make a card themselves with him. I don't send my mother anything.

I dislike Mother's Day, it feels like a day for disappointment for me, I expect to get a lie in, and all the rest, but when it doesn't happen I get really mad, like I'm entitled to it, I get even more annoyed with dh for sitting on his bum, watching bloody Scrubs and playing champ manager while I run around taking care of everything else (as usual!) most years he works all day anyway as do I sometimes, I get my Mum something but it's more about her than me in our house. The kids like to do something for me, but tbh, I don't feel as though I deserve it.

Smartie - I'm a nurse and as nurses we never know when nurses day is, nothing happens, nothing changes and we think it's stupid and pointless too.

i don't do mothers day either, nor does my mum. also don't do new year's eve or valentines day. what a joyless old bag i am. birthdays are a Big Deal in the fishie household though.

Not that I don't have the utmost respect for the nursing profession. But as you say stupid and pointless- obviously just another opportunity to sell overpriced tut. Agree that homemade cards and pressies are what it's all about.

I suppose I think I should be appreciated all year round, not just one mothers' day! And to give credit where it's due, dp does make me feel appreciated and thinks I'm a fab mum all year round.

Birthdays are very special in the Spears family too - big big fuss, but I don't need another 'birthday' on Feb 14th with prezzies and spoiling, and another one on March 2nd.

Totally agree, we also don't 'do' Valentines or New Year and yet Birthdays are massive and warrant everyone taking the day off and something special!!!!

Since I've been a mum, my mum sends me a mothers day card but I don't send her one. I don't really understand how that's come about tbh.

And in NZ (where MIL is from) mothers day is a completely different date.

I tend to think of my dc birthday as THE real mothers day.

I don't do Mothers day either