Police and social services

[Geegee30]

Hi,
My partner and I had an argument it was about money and he'd had quite a few drinks id had 2 or 3 bottles. He smashed a coffee table and it scared me my baby was in the house I called the police it escalated quickly, he got arrested, the police then spoke to me but I didn't give a statement and said I didn't want to take it any further they said social services would more than likely get involved
A friend has said the SS will only get involved if a statement is given and another friend said they'll get in touch within 48hours.
I'm so scared now, my baby is my world and nothing would ever happen to him, my partner is an amazing dad and the argument just escalated so quickly. Any help or advice please

Bottles of what? Beer? Wine? Vodka?

I had bottles of lager I wasn't drunk or anything I'd also been to sleep between the time of me drinking and then argument

I had bottles of lager I wasn't drunk or anything I'd also been to sleep between the time of me drinking and then argument

Social services will probably want to check things out, it is flagged to them if an incident happens that requires police even if no charges are being brought. If this is a one off and no other concerns I'm sure that will be it though.

How many times do we have to read posts like this on here? Your partner is not an “amazing Dad” if he behaves like this, and you need to realise that. As for Social Services, they will doubtless be in touch, likely soon. It sounds like they need to as well, to be quite frank.

OP he's not an amazing dad, he's a fucking awful dad. Raise your standards for your child's sake.

I'm really worried I don't mind them coming and visiting i don't have anything to hide. I don't know when they'll get in touch if they have a time frame etc

Amazing dads don’t smash coffee tables and get arrested.

Is your partner worried?

It's not happened before so why would you think they need to be? Nothing like this has happened before

Social services will want to see what steps you are taking for this to not happen again, eg. No more alcohol in the house, your partner getting support for drinking or anger issues, accessing any financial support to relieve the financial issues, things like that. They will want to see that you realise the magnitude of what's happened and that having police called out due to a drunken rage is a big issue, and something which is a totally unsuitable situation for a baby to be in the house with and how you're both going to make sure it never happens again.

Amazing dads don't smash coffee tables and scare people so much they feel the need to call the police.

Social services will contact you. They'll want to know what steps you are taking to make sure this doesn't happen again and that your child is protected.

As pps have said children's services will want to know what steps you are both taking to make sure this doesn't happen again.
Is he back in the house? What level of remorse is he showing?
A household where arguments turn into significant violence and police involvement are a terrible environment to bring a child up in, causing long term emotional harm (not to mention the risk of physical harm to you or baby if he kicks off again)
How old is your baby? Were you signposted to any support when the police came?

How old is the baby? Abuse often steps up when a child comes along. Do you live together?

Obviously social services will be more concerned that you wouldn't make a statement. Not making a statement doesn't mean you'll fly under the radar, it heightens the concerns. As will your attitude that he's so great and 'it hasn't happened before so it's not an issue'

Can anyone help so last night we went to a firework display with friends and there kids had some food and drinks great night came home got baby to sleep I came upstairs and as my partner was trying to get into his wardrobe he’s trapped my foot in the door as it is right next to the door to the bedroom total accident but I screamed out in pain and my toe was cut and extremely sore anyways ten minutes later a police car is outside my house and someone had reported screaming from my house I was in absolute shock I’ve asked the neighbours all deny calling the police so I can only presume a passer by has presumed something bad had happend ! I explained this to the police while the interrogated me it was clear to see what had happened to my toe ! They said they where happy and left but I’m terrified they will envolve social services thinking there has been some domestic that I’m just not confessing too which honestly was not the case am I being dramatic in thinking this ? My partner was quite verbal to the officers as they woke our baby it’s really stressed me out can anyone help should I be worrying ?

@Rosiebennett you'll get more replies if you start your own thread. I don't know if they'll involve social services or not but if it was just an accident then no one is going to take your children from you.

sorry I’ve never been on here before I don’t no how to start my own thread ? Yea it was an accident how else would you get a cut toe I’m Proberly being dramatic but I suffer with anxiety and I think the worst all the time especially when it comes to my son because I love him so much he was totally oblivious to the whole thing other then waking up at the knock on the door he didn’t even wake when I screamed about trapping my toe so I’m beginning to think it’s someone being malicious x