Husband lads holidays

[Tess227]

would really appreciate some advice -DH goes on lads holidays, 3 last year, one of which was to Cartagena, I became suspicious as it is a sex tourism destination but he assured me he could be trusted. Yesterday I looked on his lads what’s app feed to find that at least two of the men he goes away with had slept with prostitutes there & there were many mentions of getting sex. The three men he goes away with are single, & he knows that I really want to travel more, he has even been to Thailand on a stag holiday! Should I just assume that he is going away for sex?

Even if he wasn't planning to do so himself, are you really comfortable sharing your life with someone who surrounds himself with men who pay for sex?

Bearing in mind there is no way for a man to know 100% whether a woman he pays for sex is being abused, coerced, trafficked etc?

So he's friends with men who contribute to an industry in which women are trafficked and raped and they're willing to risk contributing to the misery of those women.

I would be disgusted by a man who chose to be friends with men like that.

They as a group proactively chose to travel to Cartegana and paid for sex there. Paid $15-30 to have sex with vulnerable women, likely to have been trafficked.

You know that in addition to being a sex tourism (such a horrid phrase but using as it's the official description used by police etc) destination, it's specially known for child sex trafficking?

amp.theguardian.com/global-development/2018/dec/23/child-sex-trafficking-rife-colombia-cartagena

www.freedomunited.org/news/child-trafficking-rife-in-picturesque-cartagena/

www.reuters.com/article/us-colombia-humantrafficking-idUSKBN1KL0XT

thebogotapost.com/a-look-into-child-trafficking-in-colombia/49278/amp/

www.news.com.au/travel/travel-updates/colombian-authorities-bust-sickening-child-sex-ring/news-story/863a4c1288eecf5488f3f6fefcd4979f?amp

I'm sorry but even if 'best case' scenario your partner went on the holiday there with his friends and just stayed in their hotel while they went and paid vulnerable women (hopefully not girls) for sex, he's absolutely vile.

I wouldn't mind my husband going on occasional trips with his mates but 3 in one year is taking the piss.
That's not the behaviour of a married man. That's a man acting single. I wouldn't be happy with that.

Dh is going to Portugal this year with the football boys he's known for 30 years. He hasn't been for years. Once a year is fine, 3 seems like a lot. I have no interest who any of the other men sleep with, only my Dh.

I think you can safely assume he’s been unfaithful. I mean why would a committed man even want to go away that many times AND with single men whom he (should) have nothing in common with AND to sex tourism destinations.