Anyone else cut there parents off?

[Unicornsparkle1000]

I am in my 30's and my childhood was full of abuse (emotional, neglect, physical and sexual). I thought this was all on my dads side and my mum was innocent so I cut my dad out when they split up. My mum was not innocent, she saw the abuse she didn't protect me, and I have come to realise she is a narcissist, I cut her out of my life 3 years ago and I just couldn't cope with her In my life. I have been diagnosed with complex ptsd caused by childhood trauma. Just wanted to explain why I cut them out. I have 2 children (15 & 10), who are the most amazing people on this planet. How do you cope with the loss? I don't want my parents in my life, it's 2 of the best decisions I have ever made, but feel guilty to the kids that they don't have grandparents in their lives due to me . I also feel sad I don't have parents that think of me the way I do of my kids. Anyone in the same situation

Well done. There are so many people on here who can’t find the courage to do what you have done.

You have put your children first which was something that was never demonstrated to you as a young helpless child.

In your circs it is better that your children have no contact and as you have clearly said they are great kids.

They have not missed out as much as you think. Many kids don’t have grandparents and they do just fine

I have cut my parents off.
I am proud of the fact that I have ended the cycle of abuse in my family with my generation and my kids have no idea what it's like to grow up in an abusive household. They haven't been poisoned and have happier lives because their grandparents aren't in their lives.

It helps that I was never close to my grandparents so I don't feel that my kids are missing out.