Not invited to the party

[SunflowerSeed1234]

I've been friends with a family friend for over 15 years. She's always been invited to my son (now 8) birthdays and always been very kind and bought a gift. We usually exchange Christmas gifts too.

Over the past 2 years we've drifted apart. Its her daughters 3rd birthday. Other friends have been invited to the party and we haven't. All friends have various age children up to 12. Along with seeing various fb posts of bog fancy cakes ready for next weekend, favours etc.

Its not a problem not being invited. It made me a little sad but ultimately its their party they can have who they want there.

My question is, she has bought for my child every year but has been invited, she hasn't always come. Being that we are not invited, do I still buy a gift?

I would want to but I feel silly having not been considered close enough to be invited to buy a gift.

I just feel really awkward about the whole thing. I don't want to be petty but also I dont want to force a friendship that clearly isn't there anymore.

What would you do?

Friendly advice only please 😊. (I'm not complaining about not being invited. I can't make that clear enough)

Id probably stick a fiver in a card.

I would send a card and present if she has bought one for your son who is eight every year. . There is quite an age gap between your children maybe thats the reason you weren't invited. But it is hurtful.

I'd message her and say I've got a card for x and a gift/money/ voucher whatever and say "when's is it convenient to drop it round" and see what she says!!
That could be an interesting conversation!!