HELP!!!!! TOP TABLE SEATING PLAN!!!!!!!

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i have a ruff idea on where people are "supposed" to sit, but if any one is able to help then pleeeeeeeeeeze do!!

i have 2 bridesmaids, a best man, my mum, my dad and of corse me and DP. 9 month old DS (will be 14/15 months at the time) i think maybe he should sit at a table close by with close family/friend?? or not?? he is sort of page boy btw. my 2 brothers, and the best man etc will all be wearing matching suits.

the prob i have is DP family obviously not gonna be there, what does that leave me with as regards seating plan at the top table? and should i include my brothers at the top table or not?? i would like them to be.

Any help would* be very much appreciated

Thankyou

It's your wedding, put whoever you and DP want to be there. If there are no DP family, then I guess your's plus close friends. Unless you think any aunts or grandparents etc would be so really chuffed to be included that you'd be in their good books forever. (that's what I did!) And put them in any order you want. It's your wedding after all.

you don't have to have a top table
if you had a table just the same as all the others then you/dp/your parents etc could all sit together without it being obvious his family weren't there

what about having a smaller table with maybe 6 people on (say bride, groom, best man, chief bridesmaid, and your parents).

I'd avoid having a 14 mo at top table, just because you'll end up feeding him and that will distract you from everything else you can be enjoying. not to mention if he spills mess on your dress!!!

whatever you do - make it your choice and ENJOY

sorry i should have mentioned that i want my nan to be up on there too!! plus i think deep down this is gna sound bitchy, spitful and very childish but i think i want people to notice they are not there!!! DPs family i mean!! we hate the B S*

i was thinking of an oval table but DP wants it "traditional" well its hardly gonna be with his family not being invited!!

well then 2 empty chairs is the way to go

but how will your dp feel knowing that everyone is looking and probably whispering about their absence? It might ruin your special day

We had DH and i and our 4 dc at the top table. Ds1 was the best man and ds2 gave me away. I did have the 2 dd's at our table too as they would have wanted to sit beside us. Just make sure they are in a highchair to prevent mess.

Knowing him he ll stand up and make a full on announcment about it lol

but seriously,i feel so messed up about it. im paniking like hell, i want everything to be perfect for us. if DP had it his way he'd have us run away, do it, then come back and tell everyone we're married
he s always said wat about going abroad blah dee blah.

i feel like im doing it all by myself, my mum is quite ill so i dont wanna bother her with these " minor " details, and DP is sort of a "wat ever u think is best my darling" sorta bloke but that dont mean he s not interested as far as he s concerned we could be getting married in the corner shop and it would still be OUR special day.

i swear i should leave it up to all you fab mumsnetters cos so far u ve all given me fantastic advice frm flowers to this!!

THANKYOU