Parcel has now arrived from QVC.,.. what do i do with it?

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MIl has bought ds a remote control car (£32) for xmas (this is in addition to £50 cash to buy something with and a dinosaur set (£10)). Dd has had £50 cash.

Dh and I both feel ds cant have this (he already has 2 anyway) as it shows massive favoritsm towards him - this sort of thing goes on when they are here too. What would everyone else do?

Up your daughter's money to £71 then it's even.

they've each know they have £50 already

Buy something that both can use (don't know ages - trampoline?) with ds's £50?

How old are they? Could you explain that it's nicer to be fair to people, granny made a "mistake", didn't realise she'd already bought one present etc?

OH! Well have you ever had a word with them about this?
I think you have every right to say to MIL, look thanks very much for DS lovely presents but perhaps next year she would mind giving them both money and no pressies or giving them both a present each, as you think that DD will start to undersatnd that Granny got her brother a gift but didn't get her anything and you'd hate that to happen.

Give them both the car to share? Or just to DD and see what granny says?

How about showing MIL a picture of another toy that DD wants and saying something like
"DD would like this too"
when they say about the 50 quid they have already given for her gift I would then question the pressies that DS has and if that was meant to come out of the 50 quid or how they think you should explain to DD that DS has money and gifts and DD only has the same amount of money.

Your children are quite old aren't they? DD about 12 and DS 5 or 6 or so? (Could be wrong there but had the feeling that some of the suggestions on sharing the presents might not work).

I'd say that MIL needs to be told to not do it, but I also appreciate that it's easier said than done..

I have to admit I have shamed my very annoying family into gift giving embarrassment when they forget DSD and only send gifts to DD (DSD has been part of our family for 3 years and this is the 4th Christmas) we still get pressies just addressed to DD - so I alter the tags to read to both and then DSD writes a thank you letter too (have also been known to go out and buy another gift which DSD will write and thank them for) - we are now down to only 1 Aunt and my MOTHER who think they can treat them differently wrt presents!

my dd is 11.5 and ds is 8 - think i may get dh to call her and ask what they're sending for ellie to the same value.

or of course I could flog it on ebay and then split the difference between them and then wait for the onslaught when granny gets her thank you letter omitting the car!!!

Or you could alter the tag on the car and let DD write and thank her for it After all DS has the dinosaur set so surely in the interests of fairness the car must have been meant for DD!!

No suggestions, just .

Definitely agree with the suggestion to give the car to both as joint present. Explain beforehand to MIL what you are doing, and why.

Is this favouritism part of an ongoing saga? Sorry if you have posted about this before and I missed it.

If this annoying issue is a bit of a family tradition, I don't think you can share the car easily - won't your dd see right through that ruse?

Could you not say to MIL thanks very much for the generosity to ds, but you are going to reserve the car for ds's birthday or for easter, if that's ok, as ds has got a lot of presents already and you want your dd and ds to get the same number of chrsitmas presents from their grandparents, as you don't want dd to be upset on christmas day.

If your MIL then proceeds to favour your ds again, keep holding back presents till she gets the message.