No friends, no motivation

[theunknownnn]

Anyone else who just feels lost with a child, no friends, no career, barely any family, no help nothing.. and just sees other mums who are just perfect and looks decent and seems to have it all figured out even young parents who still manage to look so good and still go out have fun partying and then there's you who just stays at home has no motivation for life and just feels lost af. ughhh i feel like complete shit. I try to distract myself with reading for instance or something but then I remember how shitty my life acc is..

My life sounds like yours, the only difference is I have no kids. I just feel really isolated sometimes and friends are non existant. People I reach out to just can't seem to be bothered meeting up or doing anything or even replying to texts. Gets a bit depressing sometimes so I get it. You kinda start getting tired of trying when noone else makes effort.
I don't think anyone is perfect though, they might portray a perfect life on FB etc but it's BS. Trust me

@LaurenS65 sorry to hear you feel the same way.. and you're right they're probably not perfect either. it's just tiring at this point, I be wishing I had at least one person but then i'm like I'd probably ghost in a min because nothing with me ever lasts a long time.

@LaurenS65 I'll PM you. No worries if you dont want to reply.

Whoops I've just sent that to myself by mistake 😂

@LaurenS65 😂 no worries and yes feel free to I might not see it now because i'm on phone so once I go over to my laptop i'll reply

Could have written this myself! I feel like I spend half my life sat on the sofa half watching tv and absently scrolling through my phone. I have t even used Mumsnet for two years but got sick of IG and FB so thought I'd try this 😂 I've just got no motivation to do anything, or I can't even think of anything I want to do that doesn't involve leaving the house or making too much noise in case I wake my DS up

@mum29919 LITERALLY ALL THIS😭 We need motivation honestly

What do people do on an evening though?! I'm a single mum and just feeling so tied to the house. I'm not interested in knitting, I like cooking but Cba with washing up, everything I do is a chore so once he's in bed and I sit down it's 7:30 and I just can't even think. How people do this with more than one kid I don't know!

To be fair- I go out a couple times a month and take nice pics etc, but I have 2 children and crippling ptsd so the rest of the time I'm purely in survival mode. My life is unbelievably hard and I often plan to end it but you'd never know from the pictures. So I guess I'm trying to say that the people you're jealous of could be just as miserable as you. I've no idea if that's of any comfort!

@sunshinenroses no no you're absolutely right, sometimes the happy looking ones are those that are the most lonely and sad. i've learned this, sometimes it's just harder to believe when one is going through something and sees others at their what seems "happiest" moments but you're absolutely right and i'm sorry to hear.. don't give up!

@mum29919 yeah I know what you mean I personally try to distract myself as much as possible when mine is asleep, whether it be a movie or something just so I don't drive myself insane

@sunshinenroses please reach out and get some help if you're having those kinds of thoughts, have you spoken to your doctor about how you're feeling? I totally agree that social media and what people portray is a big lie! But I'm worried about you feeling so low x

Thank you both for your concern, it's lovely from strangers! ☺️ I see a therapist and my gp often. I hope you guys come out of this soon. As your children grow up you'll start to get yourself back slowly. You've got so much life to go yet- one day you'll look back and realise how strong you were!

Aw good, I hope you can get through whatever you may be going through too. You're obviously incredibly strong to feel that way and still carry on and get help to see you through it 💛