Am I right to be annoyed?
I am going in to be induced tomorrow. My mum promised she would look after my youngest son, the older boys will be at school for the day, so that my partner can come along.
Last night she told me that "My dad" has said he doesn't want her looking after 4 children as it's a "big responsibility" (she raised 4 children herself and is more than capable) but she could just be using my dad as a get out.
My partner's family are useless and have never done anything or bother to see our children and my mum and dad are the only family I have within 300 miles and they never have my children, but on a rare occasion before Christmas , my mum agreed to have them at my house for a few hours whilst me and my partner went and did some Christmas shopping. The older boys will happily just watch films or play computer games, so only my youngest required the most attention for that time frame and we even ordered a takeaway for her and the children whilst we were out so she wouldn't have to cook either.
So now my partner can't attend the hospital with me , he has missed the last 2 births due to nobody willing to help out , the last time I went on my own as he stayed at home with the boys and the time before that my mum reluctantly agreed to have them whilst he came with me but we felt she still had an issue with doing something for us , so my partner told my mum to go with me instead and again stayed at home.
It's our last child now and our first daughter, this is only something that happens once in a lifetime! And neither her or my dad can be bothered to make an effort for just one day.
My mum has said she will happily come along with me for the birth but now I feel like I don't even want her there and would just rather go on my own again.
We have nobody else that we can ask and have never left the boys with anyone else outside of family , so it's just upsetting!
I know my children aren't anybody else's responsibility but surely she could make an exception to have her own grandchildren for a while. She has even drove 300 miles to my sister's house and stayed there for a couple of weeks to babysit her 3 children for them whilst her and her partner were busy with their businesses , they did pay her for this but still compared to having to do something for a few hours is an easier option and we would happily pay her but as she has already used my dad as an excuse then how can offering money change that now.
Do I just attended alone and or just suck it up and have my mum come with even though I am upset with her
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