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Don't know where to put this - Parent at school accused me of being racist

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keeplaughing · 06/02/2008 23:40

Took my DS to school today, usual carnage with selfish people all parking outside on zig zags and double yellows, made remark to one that it was out of order to park there (double yellows right on corner of road) and then another 'hope it's not your kid that gets knocked over'. She went ballistic & called me a f***g racist (and more....) Have made comments to her before a couple of times (because she does it every single day, twice), but also to any other parents who also do it. Am really cross, what do I do?

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cornsilk · 06/02/2008 23:41

Report her parking to the Head. Avoid her like the plague.

thelittleElf · 06/02/2008 23:42

I would make a complaint to the school about the parking problems, and see if they can have anyone around to stop people parking in what sounds like a very dangerous place!

Wotz · 06/02/2008 23:45

Inform the school about the parking (and the woman) - we often we get a week of having the police up and down the road talking to the parents, and giving out parking fines.

What do you want to do? You could go the the PTA too and get the whole school onboard about the parking. We have had a child knocked over in the road due to the bad parking and reversing etc. It can easily happen.

PeachesMcLean · 06/02/2008 23:47

I know a school where they had such problems with parking, they ended up with police stood on the corners. (might have been specials, community police or traffic wardens, I really don't know but the yellow jackets and official looks made people park more sensibly. Could the school talk to the LEA about that?

PeachesMcLean · 06/02/2008 23:49

As for the woman accusing you of being racist, I'm guessing you didn't say anything other than what you report here and in that case, she's a nutter.

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keeplaughing · 06/02/2008 23:51

Phew, thanks for comments, needed to get it off my chest. Am sooooo pi**ed off at being called racist. Will ignore like the plague (thanks cornsilk, made me ) but other people heard her and prob don't know what it was about. Am mortified, embarassed and v angry

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MotherFunk · 07/02/2008 00:00

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keeplaughing · 07/02/2008 00:07

Don't know MotherFunk, that's why I'm p***d off. No reason, absolutely none. Am really upset, and mad actually

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MotherFunk · 07/02/2008 00:11

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keeplaughing · 07/02/2008 00:12

Does it make any difference?

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MotherFunk · 07/02/2008 00:19

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LittleBella · 07/02/2008 00:27

pmsl at "I hope your kid gets run over"

That would be extremely offensive, but not necessarily racist.

madamez · 07/02/2008 00:32

Well I guess that there is an obvious difference between what race you are and what race she is. That doesn't make you a racist, it makes her a muppet who wants to play the victim card any time anyone attempts to criticize her bad behaviour.

MotherFunk · 07/02/2008 00:33

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LittleBella · 07/02/2008 00:43

So go on, tell us what race you and she are and we can decide how mad she is.

Wotz · 07/02/2008 09:49

Does she need to get that close to the school gates, does she or her dcs have mobility problems? Or is she just a selfish cow with a bad mouth and attitude towards others?

miobombino · 07/02/2008 09:52

Similar situation recently - waiting in slow moving contraflow, which straddled a mini roundabout, adding to the congestion, but there is no other route to school.

Man in knackered saloon car tears along the road in the bus lane (hope he was photographed) passing dozens of us who have been waiting. Screeches to a halt next to me assuming I'll be the one to let him in, but without making eye contact at all, just sitting there with his car hi fi on max, windows open. I pull out quickly thinking "no way Jose" and he hurls a barrage of assorted abuse at me including "Have you fucking seen the colour of my skin you fucking bitch".

I ignored this and just said he could wait in the queue like the rest of us and drove off. But i did feel very shaken afterwards. It was a completely inappropriate irritating inflammatory and plain wrong race victim card to play.

pankhurst · 07/02/2008 10:06

It's arguably racist on her part. Whatever colour she is, if she's noticed your race and is discounting your opinion because of it, it was just abusive.

I think lots of people would agree that Racism goes all sorts of ways: I think you are going to say you are 'not Black' and that she is. But that's IRRELEVANT. (even historically).

On a purely practical level (and I personally am very ethically opposed to racism as well) given the melting pot in the UK - which is a damned small island - we need all our children to know that colour of skin makes as much difference as colour of PANTS. We simply cannot afford (even if you don't agree with the ethics) the space for 'race war'.

So the school needs to know. They can reinforce the message of positive connection. It may not avoid a racist child growing up to become a racist adult, but it can watch to make sure that there are no child-to-child incidents of it. Which protects your kid.

And other kids.

xx

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keeplaughing · 23/02/2008 20:51

oooh ta for the sanity check. btw she is asian english, and I am white english if that is politically correct terminology? No mobility probs, no excuses, we even have use of a car park 100 metres from school during drop off / pick up times!!!! Particularly like the muppet / bad attitude comment. Will bore you on school reaction another time.. Also btw what I said was 'I hope it's NOT your child that gets knocked over', not 'I hope it is...'

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