I have a very complex relationship with my mother and have done since forever she’s always preferred my sister she’s always gone out of her way to see her be there for her and just treats her much better. I’ve accepted this as an adult but now I’m noticing that she is now treating my sisters children better than mine.
short story she made 0 effort to see my lo over Christmas in face we went to hers yesterday to get my daughters presents, and when we got there all decorations were down and there was a box in the corner for my daughter it was so impersonal and I felt bloody horrific when I seen my 8 year olds face. There was no effort at all! She sees my nephews 1/2 times a week picks them up from school goes to sports days and plays but doesn’t do any of this for my daughter and it’s because I don’t allow her to treat me like crap anymore and developed boundaries. I have never stopped her from seeing my daughter or speaking to her she just chooses not to and it’s breaking my heart for my daughter. I stopped speaking with my sister years ago as she was bringing a lot of drama into my life and we are completely different people and my mum thinks that I think better of myself when I’m reality I just do the best for my daughter where as my sister has a lot of drama and issues in her life with drugs and so on.
my daughter is so loving but there is just no effort from my mum at all and I’m angry and sad. I had words with my mum over this yesterday and told her that I’m not having her treat the children differently and she’s literally not bothered, I live 10 minutes from my mum she’s been to my house 3 times last year but sees my sister and children every week without fail half hour away. I just feel so hurt as I could never treat my children so different