why am i so scared of him choking?

[theboob]

my ds2 is nearly one and i still cant bear to let him eat on his own i have always had this fear but was never this bad with dd and ds1 ,i send all sorts for him to eat at nursery and he's fine but whenever i try at home he seems to stuff everything in at once (prob thinks eat it before she takes it away)
im scared im going to affect his development he wont even hold his own bottle,cup,etc any advice to get over this?

I used to be like this. I still dont give DS peeled oranges or satsumas to take to school because of my unreasonable fear of him choking. I quarter them and he is nearly 5.

Got no advice really, sorry. Mine sort of wore off slightly as DC got older. Read up on what to do in the event of choking till you know it off by heart and then just always be with him whenever he is eating. My DD is a bit of a "stuffer" as well and she has actually choked a couple of times but always cleared it her self. As long as you are not giving chokable foods like whole grapes - I peel and quarter mine before giving to DC - then you will probably be alright. Soft foods are easy to clear out. I always avoid apples as well as I have seen a child choke on a piece and it was really hard to clear.

thanks,ds1 is 7 and dd is 5 i never give them whole grapes or round sweets or even lollys as im scared it will come off the stick,poor ds1 he is not allowed any toys with bits or down stairs ,i hope i get over it soon before he cant feed himself at all

One of ds's early phrases was "choking hazard"

I think for me it was because he at least gagged everytime he ate for about a year and choked a few times... I would just wait and he'd usually get it up himself, only twice did I have to do something. I'd read over and over again what to do after the first gagging thing just in case.

I don't know what to say. Just be careful with obvious choking hazards and try to trust him on the rest.

Am the same and would second Viggoswifes suggestions. DS is 6 and is not allowed boiled sweets, lollipops or chewing gum for this reason.

I started a thread on AIBU re me going mental at DP for giving DS a boiled sweet lolly behind my back (I found out because I came home unexpectedly early) and was categorically told I was being very unreasonable. At least I am not alone on this.

It does get better as they get older - I was a lot worse when Ds was one.

Do you have any idea where this fear has come from?

my mum has told me i chocked on a marble when i was 2,so growing up i was never allowed marbles or round sweets i think she has passed it on to me,dd chocked on a smarties lid at friends house i could not get it out and she was going blue(one of the most frightning times in my life)i wrote to nestle for years to change the lids now thankfully they have i'll prob pass it down to them but i have little panic's when ever anything is innhis mouth spoke to hv she thinks im being silly