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how long will I feel like this?

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ELF1981 · 30/01/2008 19:47

I didn't want to put this in the depression threads as that sounds serious, I just wanted some advice please.

Back in November I started to feel sick, a doctor told me it was a viral infection. It carried on til 15th Dec when I was admitted to hospital with complete loss of feeling down one side of my body, and at one point the doctors were not sure whether I'd had a stroke, or worse, as they sent me off for a CT scan.

I spend two lousy nights in hospital, was discharged with hemipligic migraines and told that I was "all better".

Through December saw two emergency doctors for the symptoms - severe migraine, all day long vomiting, inability to function / get of out bed / keep a conversation / find the right word. This carried on in Jan when it seemed to ease up by the end of the second week.

Sorry, that is just background. Basically when I started feeling better, I also started to feel out of sorts with myself. I've had periods of lows before, never very bad, but as a teenager I used to self harm. I have tried talking to my husband and family about how I feel, which is hard because I cannot put it into words anyway, but basically I was really frightened through Dec that I was going to die, and in hospital I remember trying to tell my mum that she must make sure my daughter knew how much I loved her if anything happened to me, and various other snippets like that. I know it wasn't a near death experience in that I had to be brought back to life, but I remember being frightened.

Everytime I think about it, it weighs on my mind and I feel the urge to cut. I haven't done it in so long, but its like my body knows that it is the release I want. I dont want to cut, I have never spoken to anybody in my family about the fact I used to self harm, and they have never given any indication that they knew, so it isnt like I can say anything to them.

Sorry for rambling. I dont even know why I am posting really.

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jeremyspants · 30/01/2008 20:12

I am listening poor Elf, and am not medically qualified to understand the symptoms but reading between the lines you sound exhausted and afraid.
Can you ask your GP to refer you to either a CPN about the lows and the cutting?
Perhaps if you voice to someone medically trained of your fears then , with help, you could eventually tell your husband or Mum. It would be part of the healing process.
I'm so sorry if this is waffly but I really hope you start to feel well again.
HUG

ELF1981 · 30/01/2008 20:23

Thanks Jeremyspants

Its difficult as I have always hidden the "lows". My sister, mum and dad have all been on anti-depressants, but I have never felt able to go to the doctor and talk about it in case they suggest tablets.

I think the fact that my family dont seem to understand how I felt that day (as in I believed I would die) doesn't help.

So far I have resisted the urge to cut, which in itself is no mean feat!

I am under the care of one doc who is trying to get more details from the hospital as he is not happy with their diagnosis. I went to see another doc on Tue re something else and when asked how I was (she'd seen me when really sick) I was like "oh, fine, fine".

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jeremyspants · 30/01/2008 21:55

You have to be honest with yourself as well as the doctors who are trying to help you to wellness.
Why hide the 'lows'? They will not just go if they are ignored. You sound so unhappy having to hide the self harm.
There are other types of treatment apart from drugs eg cognitive therapy etc but you need to be open and honest. It can be a daunting thought but it sounds like you have an ally with your GP.
I think that by sending out an S.O.S. that you realise you want to get well and this is your first step.

ELF1981 · 30/01/2008 22:59

I think I find the idea of being honest difficult as I have always hidden that side. its the same here - other posts tonight that I have made have been all grinning and laughing, but partly because that is how I am used to being.

I have to go back to the docs soon, will discuss then, I think.

Thanks for listening

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jeremyspants · 30/01/2008 23:29

Good luck Elf, keep positive and look forward to a life that is not secretive but one where you enjoy life to the max

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