Nutty wants opinions on another possible house move

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Right, have had an offer from a woman who is a foster carer and is desperate for an extra bedroom and more living space. She is very interested and wants me to view her house.

This wouldn't be a move to a different area, it is still in the area that I live in now, but it is about a 20 min walk away from where I am now.
It is a 3 bed house (mine is 4), and she has said that some rooms need decorating (as most of my house does).

The kids would still be able to go to the same schools and see their dad, but it would mean that there was a bit of space between us and he couldn't keep butting in on my life.

Also where we live now is ok but it is getting a bit rough, mainly due to a family that moved in a few months ago. I personally don't get any trouble, but it also means that I don't let me kids play out the front.

My mum reckons it's not worth the hassle, i'd be losing a bedroom and still having to decorate and have all the hassle of the move to contend with.

Obviously i'd need to see the house to know if I liked it, but I don't weant to mess anyone about, and have them think that me viewing it means that I want it.

So, what would you do ?

my kids not me kids

when you first got the offer what did you think. 'oh no i don't think so' or 'oh that might be ok'?

i think it wouldnt hurt to at least go and look at the house? just because you go and see it that doesnt mean that you HAVE to take it!

What's the new area like - is it any less rough?

Are you sure that the reason she is stating for moving is true - perhaps she has problematic neighbours or something and is trying to get away, and is just using the foster caring/ space excuse as a front?

I think you need to investigate the area first. Go there when she isn't expecting you (not to her house, just to mooch around). Check out what it's like at night, weekends, etc.

Do you know anyone else who lives in that area who can let you know if it's a better area than where you are now?

It would be awful if you liked the house, agreed to the move and then found out that she has neighbours who make her life hell.

ooo tough one. are you dd's ok about sharing a room?

i would go 'mooch' as well, and check out the area.

i know the main thing for you is getting a bit of diatnce between yuopu and xp. but dont make a hasty decision.

we are in a similar position ourselves.

If it is a better area then I would go for it. But I would as Freckle suggests - check it out throughly first especially in the evening and weekends.

I think she is genuine about why she needs the extra space. She said that she is allowed to foster so many children, but that one who has now left the care system has moved back in with them, and so she is desperate for another room otherwise she will have to foster one less child.

It is on an estate of mainly private houses, wheras mine is all HA housing and is getting a bit of a rep.

Dd2 wouldn't mind sharing a room, Dd1 might, i think it would depend on her mood on the day I asked her LOL.

It isn't just because of xp that I want to move, as I had registered on exchange sites before he moved round here.

I can go and look around and see what it's like before viewing yep as it isn't that far.

Oh meant to say that I originally contacted them. They have got back to me today saying they are very interested.

Right, i'm going to go and have a walk round to where it is with my mum in an hour or so.

I'd rather have a loo at the area first before I say if I want to view the actual house.

there isn't a loo?!1

good idea to go and have a gander

LOL

Don't worry, there are 2

i can see your dilema, if you move to get away from your EX is he likely to move again do you think?

No he won't move from where he is now, thats definate. He only moved there in the first place because it was easy to get on the list.

If anything involves any effort then it counts xp out every time.

My mum is actually due to move in the next couple of years, and the place she is waiting to get is actually alot nearer to this new house than where I am now, so that would be good. I know I am near to her now, but I won't be so much when she moves.

well that sounds ok then, it will be good to be near your mum too.

Well we went to have a nose and see where it was and it is in the middle of a lovely estate with mainly privatly owned houses (you can tell which are ha and which aren't).

It is in a small culdesac, which would be great for allowing the kids to play out as it is not big enough for cars to be racing around like they do here sometimes. From what I could see of the back garden it is alot smaller than mine, but plenty big enough to play in. A smaller garden appeals to me as I am rubbish at gardening.
Obviously couldn't see inside so have no idea what thats like yet, but at the moment for me it will hinge on the bedroom sizes. Don't mind small rooms downstairs, infact prefer that.

Anyway, I was very impressed and i'm going to ring the woman later to see if I can view it.

Sounds good Nutty. We have moved to a small cul de sac, it will be the first time ever dd (9) has been able to play out as we used to live on a pretty busy main road through my village.

Thumbs up!

Yes it will be so lovely if I can let them have a bit more freedom.

Just hope the woman will be ok with mine needing alot of work. I have quite clearly stated what needs doing, and put pics up for them to see, but I know some people don't read the descriptions properly.

Mind you my mum said, if she wants to stay in this area, and she needs a 4 bed, she hasn't got alot of options as there just aren't many 4 bed HA houses around here.

It sounds like a goer.

Hope you get it.

When will you view?

Soon hopefully, I am ringing the woman later and I pretty free all week so hopefully soon.

I rung the woman, I was so nervous lol.

Anyway I am going next thursday straight from dropping the kids off at school.

She was too busy to do this week, as one of the kids she fosters is leaving next week and so she is booked up with appointments for various things. Plus she said she needed to tidy up LOL.

The good thing is, that she has looked at the pics of my house and so she will have seen that the hall, stairs and landing are in a state. Plus she said she is used to the lived in look as she always has a house full of kids.

Oh and, she said she has lived there since it was built and she doesn't actually want to move, she is only doing it because SS have changed their regs and to continue looking after the amount of kids she does, she has to have an extra room.

Sounds lovely Nutty- whereabouts is it?

Nice to have a new start in a new house

It's off Rectory road, before you get to the barracks and the lodge.

I am really hopeful that I will like it and praying that she likes mine.

Had another offer from someone in Lichfield today, but is was quite far from the town centre so have said no to that one.

I know where it is- I know someone from the Rugby who lives on there (I think its the same place)- it is very nice- I like all around that area.

Fingers crossed for you x

Thanks