Best friend bailed on my wedding 1 day before

[jeffbezoz]

She texted me various excuses and then the day before the wedding a different excuse. She was only a train ride away.. Then she decided not to come to my birthday either because she's "busy that day" But she texts me claiming she is my best friend etc etc. And how she's sorry. I'm so angry at her and don't want to be friends anymore. 😒 like why doesn't she want to participate in my events? The only thing I can think of is that she's a bit jealous as she thought she was getting married to the love of her life (even tho he didn't propose) who turned out to be a horrible man. So that ended for her. Any advice?

She’s now your ex-best friend.

Have you had it out with her, so to speak?

My best friend didn't come to my wedding. She was recently single and just couldn't face it. We're still friends 20 years later. I just accepted it for what it was!

I suspect this is one of those situations where it’s more about her than about you.

Have you tried asking her (really asking not polite chat) how she is? I suspect that’ll give you your answer

Honestly it's not best friend behaviour, I couldn't even imagine missing any close friends wedding.

When someone consistently fails to attend, either they're no longer your friend or they are struggling in some way - financially, emotionally etc.

If she's your best friend, you need to ask her if she's struggling.

2 supposedly very close friends dropped out of nine a few days before via text with shit excuses

I've not spoken to either if them since. No big fall out - I juat sent th8mbs up texts to both when they sacked me off then never bothered with them again.

I'm still fuming.

Have you considered there may be some massive anxiety issues which may override her desire to be able to celebrate these events with you. Unless you ask her if she is finding things difficult, you're just making assumptions about why she can't /isn't able to come.

Depression , social anxiety , cash flow issues