do you as a family have a cut off age where you stop buying presents

[2shoes]

dh and I can never agree on this.
he says at 16 we should stop buying or giving money to dn's
trouble is the current lot(bil's)
the oldest is 17 and youngest 11.
so if we cut off at 17(as i have just given to oldest) it would mean as of next Christmas we would give to 2 and leave one out.
I have said to dh we need to BIL and SIL and agree a plan as we can't go on forever.
just wondered what others do.

maybe when they leave home? or have kids of their own?
I don't think you can give to 2 siblings and not the 3rd

We have agreed age 18, there are 7 grandchildren and 3 are still being bought for (2 are 17, 1 is 13), but 4 are not. and that's split across families too, so some siblings get presents, some don't.

works very well here.

the only thing we did say is that if they then have children (only me and my sis so far) the children are then bought for.

thats the trouble.
I hate the idea of giving to younger 2 and not older one. with the others {sil's) i nsisted we waited untill youngets was at cut off age.

I really think you can give to 2 and not the other, so long as there is an agreed age and everyone has the same rules so the 'children' understand, because lets face it, at 17 they really are old enough to understand!

oh i gave up with great nephews and nieces as we never saw them or got a thank you

(oh and oldest is only a year older than ds. and when i asked ds what he thought he understood)

In dh's family they stop at 18 (when they usually throw them out ) or at 21 in my family, which is the traditional coming of age, at which point they are sent £21 and that's it.

21

16 .. unless they're very nice.

And let's face it, they're not.

yeah 18, and as the other poster said, if you give to all siblings till they reach 18 then they have all had the same.

I know a lot of people (not close family) used 21 as a cut-off point with me.

16

21 in ours - I made a unilateral decision, because my brother's kids are all older than mine and it's hard to buy for older ones. His youngest is 26 but 2 of them have babies now, so I'm a great-aunt and am buying again for the littlies (which is much more fun ).

Yes, they get left out after they pass the magic age, but as others have said, they will all have had 21 birthdays and Christmases in the end.

OTOH my SIL, who only has one child (now aged 17), continues to buy for all ours although the oldest is nearly 26 - and she gives them money for exam results etc and we don't even do that ourselves

I must get DH to have a word with her (but I think she just enjoys doing it, bless her )

but it would be best to talk to bil first? my other sil had a paddy when we stopped with hers (ffs they are in their 20's)

We stopped at 18 and then gave a 21st present for oldest two nephews. Not sure what you spend but most 18 year olds have interests a lot more expensive than 15 quid.