how do you feel when your friends are pregnant?

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sorry for so many issues tonight - havent been able on the internet for ages, so been storing up qus

so:

i saw a friend who is about to have her baby any time soon
and after i saw her i just felt so jealous... i think because she is in a fab relationship and i am now on my own with my dd (and yes, i do know no relationship is perfect and i am veiwing through rose tinted specs) and because she will have these perfect moments with her new baby and her partner curled up by the fire, and i just so wish i could go back and do the whole thing, the pregnancy and the labour and the last year and a half all over again and i have felt this every day since she was born, like it is all going too fast - and of course i wouldnt change her for anything, and really wierd thing when ones relationship goes wrong is that you feel negative about it, but you cant regret it because without it you wouldnt have your baby, and i just wonder if anyone else feels like this, and if anyone does have those perfect times with a new baby, floating around serenely, or is it a fug of exhaustion and confusion and joy all at once....

want to give her ALL my advice! never impose, but bore to death!!!!
friend of a friend came round thur, 5 months preg and couldnt stop looking at her and bump! dont want anymore than dd(at all!) but is such a lovely feeling having that little person growing inside you! i still look at dd, thinking, i made you..your eyelashes, your names, your organs, your hair...silly but she just amazes me!

should have said 'nails' not names

I always feel a bit 'jealous' - although pregnancy is hard work and so is having a newborn (ds3 still only 13 wks so fresh in my mind!), it's also just so amazing and there is no experience like it. I'd love to do it all over again in many ways but not sure about having 4 little ones!

i feel a bit jealous also. me and dp are ttc and i was late and went to the docs who said she was sure i was pg but just before we got results dp ex had her baby with new partner and when i got negative result i felt such a failure, but we are just gonna take it in our own time. i feel so complete when i am pregnant and cant wait for that feeling again

took us over a year, doesnt matter how long, your little one too be will be worth it, just try not to get too stressed out about it( yeah id have told me to shut up too!)

it is hard not to get get stressed because my daughters father was very violent and when i used to get my monthly visitor i would be called lots of unpleasent things and it kind of sticks but i am now with a lovely man and when i cried bout being a waste of space and no good he wrote a note on the fridge saying you feel my space and that is all i ask but i still feel a failure

dear clare1980

your message made me cry a little bit - you had the strngth to get away from a violent partner and the guts to even trust someone once again - you are the opposite of faliure...

is it amazing to share your life with your new partner?

i find it very hard to trust but with my dp i just knew it was rite, he loves my dd and is there for me when her father starts, and i feel i am ready to forget the past and start again. he is always there for me we argue bout stuff but it is usually bout stuff that really does not matter,