Toddler Struggling with Mama Working Full-Time

[GreenThumbMama]

Hello all you amazing moms,
About two months ago I started working a full-time schedule. Previously I had only worked weekends and stayed at home with my four year old daughter during the week. At first I thought she was adjusting fine, but recently as soon as I come home she behaves quite unruly and she says the reason is because she misses me during the day. I try to spend one-on-one time with her but even then her behavior (hitting the dog, demanding things, sudden ear-piercing screams) usually causes me to lose my temper, making our together time not so fun. I try to tell her I know it's been a big change and that she can always talk to me about it (although I know she might just not know the right words to describe how she is feeling exactly). She will be starting preschool next month which I am hoping will help, however in the meantime does anyone have suggestions on how to help her adjust and make the evenings more pleasant? Thank you. (=

It's pretty normal for them to get a bit out of shape when they've been away from you all day. Try not to take it personally and concentrate on keeping calm.

If she's starting Preschool next month, what happens to get now whilst you're at work?

I think you have to present it to her as a done deal, you might have some feelings of guilt but you can't show them to her. What would you be doing if she was misbehaving after school, definitely not suggesting that it's an option to stay home with you instead. Tell her that grownups go to work and children go to nursery/preschool and those are the rules.
I ended up booking some play therapy with my daughter which helped her communicate her feelings, but she had other Sen needs also.
There have been studies showing that daughters of working mothers grow up to achieve better careers themselves and are happier in the long term, so just adjust to the new normal and know it will benefit all of you in the long term.

She isnt a todfler she is four
But she is jyst communicating about the change in routine
"I miss you too but isnt it great tou get to spfnd tine with xxcc now let s go and bake a cake"

Thank you for the comments/suggestions. Right now she is with my husband during the day and the days usually go pretty smoothly. Yes, I just try to stay calm and I just try to remind myself that this will pass. I have also heard that about daughters with working moms. I try to help her communicate her feelings, but maybe something like play therapy might help as well.
I guess sometimes here in the states we still consider four toddler age, only when they turn five and start kindergarten are they children. I know she may just struggle with turning her feelings into words so I just try to be patient. Baking a cake together sounds great. (:
Thanks again, I appreciate the help.

When I started working full time out of the home after being wfh for years my youngest DD12 really struggled with missing me so she slept with me at night for a while and it provided her some reassurance that she needed. She was able to articulate this as she's older and I'm single so that helped. She went back to sleeping in her own room after a few months but it was what she needed to adjust.

I'm glad that helped your daughter. I do put mine to bed at night and if she gets up in the middle of the night I will lay in her bed with her until she is back asleep. It is a nice time to cuddle. (: